Can you analyse this situation???
Ok, so I got sacked a couple of days ago and I’m not proud of it. I didn’t know what the exact purpose was, but I was very curious about it. All I remember is , I go in to work one day, and the boss is there, “so how was your holiday?”.
"It was fine, thanks".
“Did you go for any occasion?” “Yeah, a wedding”. “who’s wedding?”
“Mine”
“hahaha, you’re such a joker”
“o…kay”
“are you being serious?”
“Yes.” Then he goes all “why didn’t you tell me?” “Sorry, I didn’t really think it was relevant.”
“I’m your boss!”
“well, you didn’t ask!”
“Oh, it’s my fault now, is it. Out!”
I was shocked. “what?!”
“Go on, OUT! You don’t need to come anymore!” I still didn’t see what I did wrong. I leave.
He Didn’t even give me a reason, so I was really narked about that. I thought of writing a apology letter, but I had no idea what I was apologising for, Then, two days ago, he called me, said he ’wanted to talk’. I went. He just basically said “I’m sorry, and I’m lucky you didn’t sue me…” He just kept apologising over and over again. Asked if I wanted the job back. I said No. Then, I was about to leave and he says “I don’t want you to remove your symbol of Islam, but tell me, Are you blonde?” I reply “yes”. “He looks down and says “That explains a lot.”
I really didn’t understand what he was talking about, and then he smiles and says “Learn how to take a hint”. And, it hurt really badly, because I had no idea what he was on about. And, I’m sure he was calling me dumb. I mean, I’ve never thought I was exactly clever, but I never thought I was exactly dumb either. And if he wanted me to ’take the hint’ that he wanted to sack me so bad, he could have said. After all, he was the boss.
And, I didnt apply for the job either, The twerp saw me outside once and he asked me if i could work for him. All day, I sat there; listening about his quarrels with his Mother and how she wanted him to marry a Jewish girl, but he didnt want to, yadda,yadda,yadaa...
I didn't do anything, he didnt let me do anything.I used to listen to his problems and stuff; but thats all I did. I think that was the reason he asked me. So he could share his problems with someone and I had no problems listening to his problems.
So, I’m standing there, thinking what the hell is wrong with this man. He says “Don’t think too hard; you’re going to hurt yourself”. I just looked at him, gob-smacked. “Did you call me hear to apologise or humiliate me?” Then he says ashamedly “I’m sorry. You’re not thick as a plank, you’re innocent, you’re naive.” One minute, he’s being Mr. Mean-Guy, and then all Mr Nice-Guy. I’m about to leave, and he says “Next time , take the hint, Blondie”.
Since then, I’ve been ‘hurting myself’ by ‘thinking too hard’ about what the hell does he mean? Did he have a Jinn in him or something? Was something possessing him? It‘s like he was fighting himself. Why would he be so mean? And, then why would be all nice all of a sudden? Does anyone understand this situation?
Sorry, I wouldn;t put it on here, but I'm not planning on telling my family either, but it's eating me up inside. I wasn't a lazy assistant either; I did everything he asked me to do. So, tell me what went wrong, and what did I do for him to hate me so much.
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[quote=You][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]And also, bit confused. Why, if you wouldn't tell this to close people, would you be okay with putting it here? All content is public on TheRevival[/quote]
It can be much easier IMO. In the real world things can get awkward.[/quote]
But also, isn't it obvious that they might see it on here anyway? It's the Internet
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They could, but its not as certain and if they do, it may still lack the overt awkwardness.
I sometimes find it easier to admit things to strangers.
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[quote=Joie de Vivre]It was some anonymous coward who made the accusation, which is very low. Can't say the thought hadn't crossed my own mind but I don't fancy having a weird argument about it, I'll treat you as for real and say Muslims are just diverse like that.[/quote]
I know what's right. You don't really know me; so I don't blame you.
You're entitled to your own opinion.
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[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=Joie de Vivre] Can't say the thought hadn't crossed my own mind [/quote]
Why did it cross your mind?
And @ Isha, I wasn't saying you were a troll, I was talking about what that message could have meant. [/quote]
No, of course not. I know you didn't mean that.
[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]
And also, bit confused. Why, if you wouldn't tell this to close people, would you be okay with putting it here? All content is public on TheRevival[/quote]
If I tell people who are close to me, they'll get hurt.I don't want to do that;I've hurt enough people. I like to believe that Ilah put me on this earth for another reason; not just for hurting people. Plus, they can't see the situation how an outsider would. (Does that make sense? :S)
And, you think...logically. People on here don't know me so, it won't hurt them to know my situation.And, i don't trust myself to make decisions, as I have made many bad ones.
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[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=You][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]And also, bit confused. Why, if you wouldn't tell this to close people, would you be okay with putting it here? All content is public on TheRevival[/quote]
It can be much easier IMO. In the real world things can get awkward.[/quote]
But also, isn't it obvious that they might see it on here anyway? It's the Internet[/quote]
Like how?
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[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=You][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]And also, bit confused. Why, if you wouldn't tell this to close people, would you be okay with putting it here? All content is public on TheRevival[/quote]
It can be much easier IMO. In the real world things can get awkward.[/quote]
But also, isn't it obvious that they might see it on here anyway? It's the Internet[/quote]
Like how?[/quote]
Well most people have access to the internet nowadays
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[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=You][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]And also, bit confused. Why, if you wouldn't tell this to close people, would you be okay with putting it here? All content is public on TheRevival[/quote]
It can be much easier IMO. In the real world things can get awkward.[/quote]
But also, isn't it obvious that they might see it on here anyway? It's the Internet[/quote]
Like how?[/quote]
Well most people have access to the internet nowadays[/quote]
Lol, I'm not that dumb!
I mean what are the chances of them finding out?
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[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=You][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]And also, bit confused. Why, if you wouldn't tell this to close people, would you be okay with putting it here? All content is public on TheRevival[/quote]
It can be much easier IMO. In the real world things can get awkward.[/quote]
But also, isn't it obvious that they might see it on here anyway? It's the Internet[/quote]
Like how?[/quote]
Well most people have access to the internet nowadays[/quote]
Lol, I'm not that dumb!
I mean what are the chances of them finding out?[/quote]
Dunno, depends how careful you are.
As i'm not very secretive, it's probably a lot different if you're sneakier or whatever
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[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=You][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]And also, bit confused. Why, if you wouldn't tell this to close people, would you be okay with putting it here? All content is public on TheRevival[/quote]
It can be much easier IMO. In the real world things can get awkward.[/quote]
But also, isn't it obvious that they might see it on here anyway? It's the Internet[/quote]
Like how?[/quote]
Well most people have access to the internet nowadays[/quote]
Lol, I'm not that dumb!
I mean what are the chances of them finding out?[/quote]
Dunno, depends how careful you are.
As i'm not very secretive, it's probably a lot different if you're sneakier or whatever[/quote]
But, if they do find out, it's kind of good.
I won't be keeping stuff from them and I won't have to tell them either.
I don't think it's being sneaky, it's more 'privacy, please'.
...
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[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=You][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]And also, bit confused. Why, if you wouldn't tell this to close people, would you be okay with putting it here? All content is public on TheRevival[/quote]
It can be much easier IMO. In the real world things can get awkward.[/quote]
But also, isn't it obvious that they might see it on here anyway? It's the Internet[/quote]
Like how?[/quote]
Well most people have access to the internet nowadays[/quote]
Lol, I'm not that dumb!
I mean what are the chances of them finding out?[/quote]
Dunno, depends how careful you are.
As i'm not very secretive, it's probably a lot different if you're sneakier or whatever[/quote]
But, if they do find out, it's kind of good.
I won't be keeping stuff from them and I won't have to tell them either.
I don't think it's being sneaky, it's more 'privacy, please'.
...[/quote]
So you want people to know but you don't want to tell them, and yet you want privacy from them? :S
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it gets confusing.
Its about room to think etc.
If thye find out it is probably not a big thing, but at the same time she does not want them to the primary ears for her words.
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[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]
So you want people to know but you don't want to tell them, and yet you want privacy from them? :S[/quote]
Err,no.
I don't want them to know.
But, if they do find out , at least the burden of hiding stuff no longer exists.
By privacy, I mean, like I can't stand nosy people, so I'd want privacy.
(Err, does that like make sense? :S)
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[quote=You]it gets confusing.
Its about room to think etc.
If thye find out it is probably not a big thing, but at the same time she does not want them to the primary ears for her words.[/quote]
Yeah, that's right.
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I just don't want to be judged!
Is it really too much to ask for?
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[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi] I can't stand nosy people[/quote]
🙁
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[quote=Dawud]Salaam
He likes you. Not joking. He probably had a crush on you for months.
He is damn lucky you didn't sue! Don't be stressing. I get the feeling you're straight up if a bit naive, and he read to much into your 'niceness'.
[/quote]
I don't know.
My mind is getting it, but my heart is contradicting the thoughts. Like, I looked up to him, like...well, a leader.And, i feel like kicking myself for not noticing. he even gave hints, and I didn't notice.
I don't really understand people who talk in riddles; i prefer it if people just say what's on their mind. Be straight-forward. Gosh, would it kill you?!
[quote=Dawud]
His fault not yours. A P45 is a pretty big toy to throw out of the pram![/quote]
What do you mean?
And, Tashkor for your...analysis.
Everyone seems to be reading the situation in the same; why can't I see it??
I thought, someone may agree with me, that he does have a Jinn possessing him...
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[quote=Ocean][quote=s.b.f][quote=Isha Al-Maghribi] I can't stand nosy people[/quote]
:([/quote]
LMAO!!!![/quote]
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She is saying that she is a nosy person.
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[quote=You]She is saying that she is a nosy person.[/quote]
Really?
I didn't get that impression.
It was nice meeting you, and I'm not just saying that to be polite, I mean it.
@You-
You should have told me i was annoying! Like I said, I prefer if people be straight-forward and say what's on their mind.Otherwise, I wouldn't get it.
I didn't mean to annoy you. Thanks for having 'patience.'
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I didn't say you were annoying me.
I try to take everything at face value as best as I can and if I have something to say, I say it. Sometimes.
People can't always get along at all times, so when something irritates them, they generally need to show a little patience or ignore the specific posts/topics. Not too hard.
(I doubt there is much left that can be said in this topic though.)
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Yes, but i don't like being a charity case on anyone!
I don't like putting anyone in an awkward situation. Which is why I don't bother sharing problems with any one.
Maybe it should stay that way.
...
And, again, I'm sorry.
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[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi]I just don't want to be judged!
Is it really too much to ask for?[/quote]
Part and parcel of seeking advice, especially in this way.
Why is being judged so bad anyway
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[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi]Yes, but i don't like being a charity case on anyone!
I don't like putting anyone in an awkward situation. Which is why I don't bother sharing problems with any one.
Maybe it should stay that way.
...
And, again, I'm sorry.[/quote]
Personally i like that you share
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[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi] I'm sorry.[/quote]
Wow, deja vu.
I think if you want to ask for advice or opinions or 'analysis', but then take it to heart and get all sensitive whenever you hear a negative thing, then that's not good.
But no one here (i don't think) has a problem with you sharing.
I for one find your problems quite interesting, and the storylike way they're written is quite enjoyable to read; You're probably quite practised at writing fictional things.
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[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=Isha Al-Maghribi]I just don't want to be judged!
Is it really too much to ask for?[/quote]
Part and parcel of seeking advice, especially in this way.
Why is being judged so bad anyway[/quote]
Because people don't even know you, yet they judge you you on what they see.Like when walking down streets. i live in a more white-dominated area. They say 'traitor', It's like "Gosh, i never was one of you, anyway!
And, then asomeone calls you "slapper!"
Why? Why are they labelling me , if they don't knoe me?
Do they get kicks out of, i don't know. But,i can't handle it. Everywhere you go. You try to ignore it, but how long can you kid yourself for? How long?
And, i don't fit in anywhere. I'm sure there's lot of people who feel like me out there, but Ilah hasn't granted me the patience or the tolerance.
I should move.To Arabia/Egypt , maybe; but that's where I'll fall into bad temptation. Smoking,dancing, even more tattoos,I don't want to be that girl,again; and it's not ok, for my children either.
I want to move to Pakistan. Girls don't go out anyway, i can stay indoors; no' one can see me, so no 'one can label me as anything. I can adopt to my heart's content.
I guess you would call it 'suffocated in your own skin.'
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yawn.
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[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=Isha Al-Maghribi]I just don't want to be judged!
Is it really too much to ask for?[/quote]
Part and parcel of seeking advice, especially in this way.
Why is being judged so bad anyway[/quote]
Because people don't even know you, yet they judge you you on what they see.Like when walking down streets. i live in a more white-dominated area. They say 'traitor', It's like "Gosh, i never was one of you, anyway!
And, then asomeone calls you "slapper!"
Why? Why are they labelling me , if they don't knoe me?
Do they get kicks out of, i don't know. But,i can't handle it. Everywhere you go. You try to ignore it, but how long can you kid yourself for? How long?
And, i don't fit in anywhere. I'm sure there's lot of people who feel like me out there, but Ilah hasn't granted me the patience or the tolerance.
I should move.To Arabia/Egypt , maybe; but that's where I'll fall into bad temptation. Smoking,dancing, even more tattoos,I don't want to be that girl,again; and it's not ok, for my children either.
I want to move to Pakistan. Girls don't go out anyway, i can stay indoors; no' one can see me, so no 'one can label me as anything. I can adopt to my heart's content.
I guess you would call it 'suffocated in your own skin.'[/quote]
Can I ask why you have a fixation with the colour of your skin?
You go on about 'whiteness' quite a lot?
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lol.
isha i think you're a fake.
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no need to get your claws out people.
[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]And also, bit confused. Why, if you wouldn't tell this to close people, would you be okay with putting it here? All content is public on TheRevival[/quote]
It can be much easier IMO. In the real world things can get awkward.