Personal Reformation

zdc

Salaams Everyone,

I recently had a very mubarak dream and I have decided to go on a journey of self reformation.

I would like to apologise to all the sisters on the forum for my anti wife/women attitude. I know I have caused a lot of hurt to many of you. Please find it in your hearts to forgive a misguided brother.

I will still be on the forum but will hopefully only contribute where necessary, eg. when things that are not permissible in Islam are advocated or made permissible. I consider myself a student rather than a teacher.

So, to everyone who has been so patient with me, make dua allah accepts me and guides me onto the path of siratul mustakeem. I have not been long on the forum and don't know many people, but in this short time I have made more enemies than friends, and that is not a good thing. The BIG, MEAN, GREEN MACHINE, is hopefully becoming more human.

To the few that I do know,

Lilly - I just love to make you angry, you really don't know how to get angry, but that's what makes you different. Always remain the way you are. I am quite sure you will make an "EXCELLENT" wife, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise, not even me.

You - YOU seem to have some weird interpretations of hadith, I suggest when in doubt check with the scholars, thats why they are there. Nothing more dangerous than making false interpretations. Insha allah, guidance will be yours. One more thing, you don't have to oppose everything people say, you can agree some of the time, it's not a sin. Anyway all da best.

Isha al Maghribi - Is the spelling right? I hope so. Have a wonderful wedding and hope you have a very happy married life with your new husband and hopefully you will have more kids, but not too soon, otherwise you will have a whole football team by the time you're 25. Oh yes, B is the better option for the wedding dress, but if you like A that is fine too.

Power of Silence - Practice what you preach, learn to be silent more often, just kidding. Give Fefe a big HUGG from me, be careful you don't crush his bones. Don't forget to silence injustice and oppression, NO! that does not mean you gotta kick my butt. All da best with the studies.

To all those whom I have missed above, all da best and remember me in your duas.

Huuuuh!! I hate good-byes they make me go all soft. COMMON, GREENEEEEEEE
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!

Salaams.
Yours
zdc

LookingToSee — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 10:58

Im commentinb first...there goes...
if you only comment when we're wrong and something bad is happening you'll end up known as a 'holier-than-thou' person, dont. When you see something interesting, give hour opinion.
..this whole blogpost feel so unreal...
[Size=8] thanks for the compliment... [/Size]
Inshalah, you, alomgside MB will become our local 'molvi' :p seriously...inshallah all your efforts effort are rewarded and all of us guided to siralutmustakeem. Ameen.
about You: usually he's too lazy to develop his points, but if you think about it/ask him to develop you might understand his point of view. You is pretty openminded.

zdc — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 11:08

[quote=Lilly]Im commentinb first...there goes...
if you only comment when we're wrong and something bad is happening you'll end up known as a 'holier-than-thou' person, dont. When you see something interesting, give hour opinion.
..this whole blogpost feel so unreal...
[Size=8] thanks for the compliment... [/Size]
Inshalah, you, alomgside MB will become our local 'molvi' :p seriously...inshallah all your efforts effort are rewarded and all of us guided to siralutmustakeem. Ameen.
about You: usually he's too lazy to develop his points, but if you think about it/ask him to develop you might understand his point of view. You is pretty openminded.[/quote]

As long as I don't think that I am holier than thou, there is'nt really a problem is there?
Why does this blogspot feel so unreal??
Haha! I'll leave the molvi thing to MB, he seems quite good at it.
I really think You is a her.
I'll try to give my opinion at times if I feel it's necessary.
Oh yes, I did'nt really mean the compliment!!

Just Kidding.

LookingToSee — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 11:27

[quote=zdc]As long as I don't think that I am holier than thou, there is'nt really a problem is there?[/quote]

yes but people might not like you, coz THEY will think you are. AND it will lead to them not taking you seriously. That's not what you want. (that was just my opinion, just ignore me..)

Why does this blogspot feel so unreal??

It feels unreal because..well..mashallah, such a big change! all of a sudden, forgive me if im just a teeny tad suspicious...just dont wanna get hurt...

Haha! I'll leave the molvi thing to MB, he seems quite good at it.

i dont even know what molvi means...but i think i've figured it out...

I'll try to give my opinion at times if I feel it's necessary

you can look at it both way, it is ALWATS necessary because this is a forum. or its never necessary because its your opinion.

Oh yes, I did'nt really mean the compliment!!

betcha didnt...must have slipped... (thats why i wrote this is TEENY writing..to be ignored!)

I really think You is a her.

and i assure you he isnt. (except if he's being deceiving ALL of us ALL this time...)

urgh this quoting thing is making this post looks super long...
wont you change your signature?

zdc — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 11:30

[quote=Lilly]

Why does this blogspot feel so unreal??

It feels unreal because..well..mashallah, such a big change! all of a sudden, forgive me if im just a teeny tad suspicious...just dont wanna get hurt...

[/quote]

You are just too suspicious. I would never hurt little Lilly, I'm done with dat stuff. Besides Lil Lilly did'nt do anything to me.

[quote=Lilly]

Oh yes, I did'nt really mean the compliment!!

betcha didnt...must have slipped... (thats why i wrote this is TEENY writing..to be ignored!)[/quote]

I was just kidding teeny, weeny, little Lilly. IF!! I was in the market, even I would have married you.

LookingToSee — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 12:04

Hmm..u shld get a mre personalisd picture AND U DEFO need to CHANGE your sig!! Its perverted and from your 'old' life. Write something like 'Hulk found his cure in Islam'

zdc — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 13:44

[quote=Lilly]Hmm..u shld get a mre personalisd picture AND U DEFO need to CHANGE your sig!! Its perverted and from your 'old' life. Write something like 'Hulk found his cure in Islam'[/quote]

How's this?

zdc — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 14:46

[quote=Lilly]Love the sig!!!!
marhaban new zdc![/quote]

Thanks, I could'nt have done it without your help.

zdc — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 15:27

[quote=Lilly]I didnt do anything...[/quote]

It's ok, I just feel like thanking you.

TPOS — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 16:45

[quote=zdc]Salaams Everyone,

I recently had a very mubarak dream and I have decided to go on a journey of self reformation.[/quote]
Masha'Allah, May Allah (Swt) help you succeed.

[quote=zdc]
I would like to apologise to all the sisters on the forum for my anti wife/women attitude. I know I have caused a lot of hurt to many of you. Please find it in your hearts to forgive a misguided brother.[/quote]
You're forgiven 🙂 but I didn't think you were that bad in the first place!
[quote=zdc]
I will still be on the forum but will hopefully only contribute where necessary, eg. when things that are not permissible in Islam are advocated or made permissible. I consider myself a student rather than a teacher.[/quote]
*thumbs up*
[quote=zdc]
So, to everyone who has been so patient with me, make dua allah accepts me and guides me onto the path of siratul mustakeem. I have not been long on the forum and don't know many people, but in this short time I have made more enemies than friends, and that is not a good thing. The BIG, MEAN, GREEN MACHINE, is hopefully becoming more human.[/quote]
You will be remembered in my duas, please do the same for us!
[quote=zdc]
Power of Silence - Practice what you preach, learn to be silent more often, just kidding. Give Fefe a big HUGG from me, be careful you don't crush his bones. Don't forget to silence injustice and oppression, NO! that does not mean you gotta kick my butt. All da best with the studies.[/quote]

awwwww thanks! 😃 😃 😃
...but i'm a Girl!!

[quote=zdc]
Salaams.
Yours
zdc[/quote]

Wsalaams 🙂

TPOS — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 16:48

[quote=Lilly]

yes but people might not like you, coz THEY will think you are. AND it will lead to them not taking you seriously. That's not what you want. (that was just my opinion, just ignore me..)

[/quote]
He's said he would only post if he had anything worthy of saying (more or less) that doesn't mean he's gna sound like he's up himself but that he's not gna chat a load of crap, half the time. If he has the right intention, and even explains this fact, then it doesn't really matter what other people think.
Just saying 🙂

LookingToSee — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 18:48

Salaam zdc, im Lilly
i can be annoying and talk too much.
nice to have you here, hope you enjoy your time here and learn new things! And tht it doest become a source of fitnah. On the other hand, hope you become a regular.

Isha Al-Maghribi — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 - 19:20

[quote=zdc]Salaams Everyone,

I recently had a very mubarak dream and I have decided to go on a journey of self reformation.

I would like to apologise to all the sisters on the forum for my anti wife/women attitude. I know I have caused a lot of hurt to many of you. Please find it in your hearts to forgive a misguided brother.
[/quote]
Great! good luck with it!
[quote=zdc]
I will still be on the forum but will hopefully only contribute where necessary, eg. when things that are not permissible in Islam are advocated or made permissible. I consider myself a student rather than a teacher.

So, to everyone who has been so patient with me, make dua allah accepts me and guides me onto the path of siratul mustakeem. I have not been long on the forum and don't know many people, but in this short time I have made more enemies than friends, and that is not a good thing. The BIG, MEAN, GREEN MACHINE, is hopefully becoming more human.

To the few that I do know,

Lilly - I just love to make you angry, you really don't know how to get angry, but that's what makes you different. Always remain the way you are. I am quite sure you will make an "EXCELLENT" wife, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise, not even me.

You - YOU seem to have some weird interpretations of hadith, I suggest when in doubt check with the scholars, thats why they are there. Nothing more dangerous than making false interpretations. Insha allah, guidance will be yours. One more thing, you don't have to oppose everything people say, you can agree some of the time, it's not a sin. Anyway all da best.

Isha al Maghribi - Is the spelling right? I hope so. Have a wonderful wedding and hope you have a very happy married life with your new husband and hopefully you will have more kids, but not too soon, otherwise you will have a whole football team by the time you're 25. Oh yes, B is the better option for the wedding dress, but if you like A that is fine too.

Power of Silence - Practice what you preach, learn to be silent more often, just kidding. Give Fefe a big HUGG from me, be careful you don't crush his bones. Don't forget to silence injustice and oppression, NO! that does not mean you gotta kick my butt. All da best with the studies.

To all those whom I have missed above, all da best and remember me in your duas.

Huuuuh!! I hate good-byes they make me go all soft. COMMON, GREENEEEEEEE
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!

Salaams.
Yours
zdc
[/quote]

Awwwwwwww! You personalised it¬! How sweet!
Thanks, Insha'Allah the weeding will be....good.
More kids?!¬ :S :S :S :S :S :S
I'm sorry. No chance! Omg, do you see me as sexually acticve? I hope not:S
And, Shokran for your opinion, means a lot. It seriously does.
...
Could you help me with this:
No'one so far has answered my question about "what are the major DO'S/DON'TS os a Pakistani/Indian wedding. Do enlighten me.
...
Welcome new Zdc, I personally had no problem with the new one, fyi/

zdc — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 - 10:34

[quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE][quote=zdc]Salaams Everyone,

I recently had a very mubarak dream and I have decided to go on a journey of self reformation.[/quote]
Masha'Allah, May Allah (Swt) help you succeed.

[quote=zdc]
I would like to apologise to all the sisters on the forum for my anti wife/women attitude. I know I have caused a lot of hurt to many of you. Please find it in your hearts to forgive a misguided brother.[/quote]
You're forgiven 🙂 but I didn't think you were that bad in the first place!
[quote=zdc]
I will still be on the forum but will hopefully only contribute where necessary, eg. when things that are not permissible in Islam are advocated or made permissible. I consider myself a student rather than a teacher.[/quote]
*thumbs up*
[quote=zdc]
So, to everyone who has been so patient with me, make dua allah accepts me and guides me onto the path of siratul mustakeem. I have not been long on the forum and don't know many people, but in this short time I have made more enemies than friends, and that is not a good thing. The BIG, MEAN, GREEN MACHINE, is hopefully becoming more human.[/quote]
You will be remembered in my duas, please do the same for us!
[quote=zdc]
Power of Silence - Practice what you preach, learn to be silent more often, just kidding. Give Fefe a big HUGG from me, be careful you don't crush his bones. Don't forget to silence injustice and oppression, NO! that does not mean you gotta kick my butt. All da best with the studies.[/quote]

awwwww thanks! 😃 😃 😃
...but i'm a Girl!!

[quote=zdc]
Salaams.
Yours
zdc[/quote]

Wsalaams :)[/quote]

Thanks for the very nice reply, I really appreciate it. I know you're a GIRL!!!, it stands for:

G - Gentle
I - Intelligent
R - Respectful
L - Loving

All this being nice stuff does'nt suit me does it? I'm kinda liking it, noboding wanting to strangle me, everyone being so nice, feels weird, but nice.

zdc — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 - 10:42

[quote=Lilly]Salaam zdc, im Lilly
i can be annoying and talk too much.
nice to have you here, hope you enjoy your time here and learn new things! And tht it doest become a source of fitnah. On the other hand, hope you become a regular.[/quote]

Hi, thanks for the very nice intro, I hope I will learn new things. Feel free to be yourself and talk your heart out, I am not easily annoyed.
You really want me to become a regular?? Why?

zdc — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 - 07:59

[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi]
Awwwwwwww! You personalised it¬! How sweet!
Thanks, Insha'Allah the weeding will be....good.
More kids?!¬ :S :S :S :S :S :S
I'm sorry. No chance! Omg, do you see me as sexually acticve? I hope not:S
And, Shokran for your opinion, means a lot. It seriously does.
...
Could you help me with this:
No'one so far has answered my question about "what are the major DO'S/DON'TS os a Pakistani/Indian wedding. Do enlighten me.
...
Welcome new Zdc, I personally had no problem with the new one, fyi/[/quote]

Glad u liked it.
What u mean you're not sexually active?, you're only 19, hormones do funny things at that age, besides you getting married, and you know guys! Astagh-firullah, I should'nt be speaking like this to a girl. Maaf.

I would really love to help you with the whole Indian/Pakistani wedding thing, but to be honest I don't have a clue, it will be a case of the blind guiding the blind. I hope someone who is more knowledgeable about this helps you out, insha allah.

TPOS — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 - 18:08

[quote=zdc]

Thanks for the very nice reply, I really appreciate it.[/quote]
no probs 🙂
[quote=zdc] I know you're a GIRL!!!, it stands for:

G - Gentle
I - Intelligent
R - Respectful
L - Loving[/quote]
i thought you knew :/ like the acronym 🙂
[quote=zdc]
All this being nice stuff does'nt suit me does it? I'm kinda liking it, noboding wanting to strangle me, everyone being so nice, feels weird, but nice.[/quote]
Dude! check out those horrible spelling mistakes!

Isha Al-Maghribi — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 - 21:18

[quote=zdc][quote=Isha Al-Maghribi]
Awwwwwwww! You personalised it¬! How sweet!
Thanks, Insha'Allah the weeding will be....good.
More kids?!¬ :S :S :S :S :S :S
I'm sorry. No chance! Omg, do you see me as sexually acticve? I hope not:S
And, Shokran for your opinion, means a lot. It seriously does.
...
Could you help me with this:
No'one so far has answered my question about "what are the major DO'S/DON'TS os a Pakistani/Indian wedding. Do enlighten me.
...
Welcome new Zdc, I personally had no problem with the new one, fyi/[/quote]

Glad u liked it.
What u mean you're not sexually active?, you're only 19, hormones do funny things at that age, besides you getting married, and you know guys! Astagh-firullah, I should'nt be speaking like this to a girl. Maaf.

I would really love to help you with the whole Indian/Pakistani wedding thing, but to be honest I don't have a clue, it will be a case of the blind guiding the blind. I hope someone who is more knowledgeable about this helps you out, insha allah.[/quote]

Thanks for that anyways. I just feel like strangling my mother-in-law!
Ok, I shouldn't say that, but honestly!
Is this really necceassary?
I'm happy with a signing paper thingy. No need for all the works.
I'm just soooooooooo totally happy someone (on here)told me about weddings being segregated. I think it was LILLY, OR yOU OR sUHAIL? i DON'R KNOW. bUT, TAHNK YOU SO MUCH! tHATS LIGHTENED THE HUGE BURDEN!
( Ok, writing in caps, but ignore it. Cant be bothered to rewrite that)

LookingToSee — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 - 22:15

i mentionned segragated weddings..but i dont know if asian weddings are segragated, (i think You might have said that..)

why are you happy it is?

TPOS — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 - 22:06

why not take this marriage stuff and keep it under one topic?
sorry if im being annoying, hate it when it goes off-topic especially when its about a topic thats being discussed already at the same time! :/
plus ur kinda ruining zdc great blog ¬_¬ 😛

Isha Al-Maghribi — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 - 22:19

[quote=Lilly]i mentionned segragated weddings..but i dont know if asian weddings are segragated, (i think You might have said that..)

why are you happy it is?[/quote]

like totally!
Not to sexist or anythting, but i find certain guys creepy, well, most guys, to be honest.
And, plus , girls are always like so concious and always dress to impress. No guys, no trouble. Poeple can loosen up and enjoy!

Isha Al-Maghribi — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 - 22:20

[quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE]why not take this marriage stuff and keep it under one topic?
sorry if im being annoying, hate it when it goes off-topic especially when its about a topic thats being discussed already at the same time! :/
plus ur kinda ruining zdc great blog ¬_¬ :P[/quote]

*sorry.

zdc — Fri, 1 Oct 2010 - 06:07

[quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE][quote=zdc]

Thanks for the very nice reply, I really appreciate it.[/quote]
no probs 🙂
[quote=zdc] I know you're a GIRL!!!, it stands for:

G - Gentle
I - Intelligent
R - Respectful
L - Loving[/quote]
i thought you knew :/ like the acronym 🙂
[quote=zdc]
All this being nice stuff does'nt suit me does it? I'm kinda liking it, noboding wanting to strangle me, everyone being so nice, feels weird, but nice.[/quote]
Dude! check out those horrible spelling mistakes![/quote]

What, where, when, how???

zdc — Fri, 1 Oct 2010 - 06:17

[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi]
Thanks for that anyways. I just feel like strangling my mother-in-law!
Ok, I shouldn't say that, but honestly!
Is this really necceassary?
I'm happy with a signing paper thingy. No need for all the works.
I'm just soooooooooo totally happy someone (on here)told me about weddings being segregated. I think it was LILLY, OR yOU OR sUHAIL? i DON'R KNOW. bUT, TAHNK YOU SO MUCH! tHATS LIGHTENED THE HUGE BURDEN!
( Ok, writing in caps, but ignore it. Cant be bothered to rewrite that)[/quote]

Most guys are not, the paper thingy disappears very quickly, in a few years time nobody will even know where it is, the guys always go for the works (I am sure u realise that by now). Sorry, men are from mars women, haaahaaaha, I'll leave that one out.

I am sooooooo happy for you, someone actually helped you out. GREEEEEEEEEEAT stuff!!

zdc — Fri, 1 Oct 2010 - 06:23

[quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE]why not take this marriage stuff and keep it under one topic?
sorry if im being annoying, hate it when it goes off-topic especially when its about a topic thats being discussed already at the same time! :/
plus ur kinda ruining zdc great blog ¬_¬ :P[/quote]

It's no problem, anything for my new found friends, they can mess up my blog, my brains, put me on the ground and trample me, no problem!! (I hope they weight less than 100 pounds), what's a few messed up blogs between friends, common. Besides I think this blog has reached it's limit in any case.

Glad you like my blog.

zdc — Fri, 1 Oct 2010 - 06:25

[quote=Isha Al-Maghribi][quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE]why not take this marriage stuff and keep it under one topic?
sorry if im being annoying, hate it when it goes off-topic especially when its about a topic thats being discussed already at the same time! :/
plus ur kinda ruining zdc great blog ¬_¬ :P[/quote]

*sorry.[/quote]

Between friends, there's "no sorry, no thank you" errrr, which indian movie did I hear that in??

TPOS — Fri, 1 Oct 2010 - 17:29

[quote=zdc]It's no problem, anything for my new found friends, they can mess up my blog, my brains, put me on the ground and trample me, no problem!! (I hope they weight less than 100 pounds), what's a few messed up blogs between friends, common. Besides I think this blog has reached it's limit in any case.

Glad you like my blog.[/quote]
LOL

[quote=zdc]

Between friends, there's "no sorry, no thank you"[/quote]
I agree 🙂

[quote=zdc]errrr, which indian movie did I hear that in??[/quote]
ewww eurgh, don't watch that trash!
😃