Is this the right thing to do?

Depends on if you can pull it off or not.

The idea is good, but at the same time you have to avoid making them think you are being... less friendly?

So as a compromise you may put your foot down and say you will not accept an exensive gift - because its the thought that counts. and then cough and say triple chocolate cake and then cough again and then carry on about watever you want to mentioning how all this gift think makes you uncomfortable and then go on about and tell them WE should try to be better Muslims.

How do you mean you want them to become a bit more religious?
what ideas do you have that you would like to see in them?
Would they take offense?
Are they aware that they are not religious?

[quote=You] and then cough and say triple chocolate cake and then cough again and then carry on about watever you want to mentioning how all this gift think makes you uncomfortable and then go on about and tell them WE should try to be better Muslims.[/quote]

then i'll send the cake over...im not a chocolate fan...

and yeah the WE is important

@S.b.f. i dont think they would take offence, we're all muslims and we all know that there is room for improvement, from regular praying to starting to wear the headscarf.

but i dont want it to be just something i say in the air that'd go in from one ear and out the other ( it IS costing me a a very-much-wanted present! =P) So i need to make it sound effective...somehow..

You could ask for a different type of cake. chocolate cake is not the only variety out there... there is also... white chocolate! (I kid, there is more variety.)

and yes, you do not want to end up without the good advice being heeded and no present either.

Personally, I would accept the present - after making sure its not so expensive that it means you feel guilty accepting it.

urgh...i thought i'd reply...

welll....a six hundreds quids piece of clothing.....

if they did do it, i wont feel guilty...i'll go in shock..

That is a lot of money.. what do they expect in return?

Talk them out of it as that is a big thing.

just accept the gift.

[quote=Noor]just accept the gift. [/quote]

i cant!

most of them dont have that kind of money, some of them have money trouble, i do believe ALL of them havent been on holiday for years!

this is the type of stuff you buy yourself, or someone really close to you buys it for you, like family...

we're still teenagers. if they ask their families...then...NO! i have to talk them out of it..presto!

I agree with your logic there.

[quote=You]I agree with your logic there.[/quote]

ahh! so its not me who's going crazy... reassured.

they keep asking the sly questions like... "whats you're favourite colour" and im like "me well..i really like...WAIT! dont even try it!"

im trying my best to lead...

its the present thing

new development: talking them out of it is going to be harder than i thought... 4 against 1, not fair...

How does leading make things better?

leading with the right example. instead of just lecturing them.

thats what i think she meant, and i try to see good everywhere so...

[quote=Lilly]im trying my best to lead...

its the present thing

new development: talking them out of it is going to be harder than i thought... 4 against 1, not fair...[/quote]

Did u talk to them yesterday? say what you said you would say? how did they respond?

[quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE][quote=Lilly]im trying my best to lead...

its the present thing

new development: talking them out of it is going to be harder than i thought... 4 against 1, not fair...[/quote]

Did u talk to them yesterday? say what you said you would say? how did they respond?[/quote]

nope havent seen them since last week, was talking to one of them on the phone though...the mastermind behind this whole affair and the one im closest to, but i couldnt be bothered to put my point forward to her and then do it to the rest of them afterwards. i'm gonna, inshallah, see them tomorrow...

NO NO NO!!

its turning out ALL wrong! they're planning to get summer jobs!? what the heck?! I CANT LET THEM! they wont listen!! T.T

Send the head honcho a link to this topic.

Tell them that you will make them return it.

i said i wouldnt wear it anyway. a kimono isnt like a T-shirt... i wouldnt even KNOW how to wear it.

and i might just send a link to all of them.

nothing wrong with a summer job, whats wrong, is guetting the summer job to pay for the kimono.

but now im thinking, "if they are planning to do that, then its not going to happen" and i kinda started relaxing since then. Shows how i feel about my friends eh?