Depending on what your definition of friendship is...
Something I came across made me ask this question...
A very close non-Muslim friend from primary school added me on Facebook the other day. I was surprised but pleased that he remembered me, and I spent some time reminiscing looking through his profile. Unfortunately, my heart sunk when I saw that he had been strongly for the ‘Draw Mohammed Day’ and had even designed some distasteful images of the Prophet in the name of ‘Freedom of speech’ (according to his profile). This got me thinking… Firstly, how should I react to this?
and while trying to make the person understand should be the first act here, surely if the person persists, this is not someone you will want to keep in touch with?
So what is friendship worth and does it have a price?
btw, I am aware that I may be more simplistic in this since I barely keep in touch with people any way.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
Ditch them. Got better things to do, with better people who do share my views.
Arguing with someone whose stupid enough to do that
is a waste of breath and IMO a lost cause. Id reject their friendship request 'DE.... wait for it...NIED!' lol
when they take months before they get in touch, and then make pathetic excuses like forgetting your number, when a mutual friend they keep in touch with has your number?
when you are the last to know about a death or birth
When they don't pay respects on the death or birth of someone dear to you, or some other notable occasion in your life
when they distance themselves from you because you have decided to dress a certain way, i.e hijab, beard, thoube
when they only call you in their moments of need but never acknowledge your needs
as for that incident ditch them and tell them why, don't mince your words, be as blatant as possible
“O my people! Truly, this life of the world is nothing but a (quick passing) enjoyment, and verily, the hereafter that is the home that will remain forever.” [Ghafir : 39]
i agree with hajjar
what is a thoube?
When someone has no standards or dislikes you or is full-on nasty; not when someone has views you find offensive, those are great friends to have.
the jilbaab equivalent for men
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
Humans are social things, whether we want it or not we have to have some type of relation with other people. (real of otherwise)
It's easier when it's a non-muslim friend. or maybe not.. If you really like them and you feel the only thing that is missing in Deen, then what do you do? try to call them? but you havent done that for all these years... Try and call them to the deen (max 3times) and then forget it if they are not interested? there is less tension in those relationship religion-wise. because you have a different religion, they dont overlap and get in the way. but the lack of overlapping also causes a certain distance to be created.
With muslims friends its even harder. or maybe it's easier? as you have that common ground of religion? But what if they are not religious? Then there is all this tension because you're the same religion but not practising it to the same degree. but if you try to build on the similarities instead of the differences. then it's beautiful. i would personally love to pray with my muslims friends one day. The people i chose myself, who i care about and want to keep in their life. having a religious experience like praying together...that would be nice.
answering the title question. A friendship (regardless of religion) isnt worth keeping (in my humble opinion) if you feel uncomfortable around that person to be yourself. you dont need to end it right there and then. Just pray to Allah that you are making the right choice then let it be, you'll end up drifting apart.
Friendship definatly DO have a price. Friendships are a two way thing. real, healthy ones. you cant expect to take take take and give nothing in return, whether it be materials things, a listening ears, advice etc... I've often wondered why some of my friendships werent going so well and sometimes (its difficult to admit) the other person isnt trying as hard as you are. or they arent that interested. Friendship has a price. you've got to be ready to pay it or else forget it.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
actual LOL because:
looks like its an answer to
Don't just do something! Stand there.