"To be trusted is more important than to be loved."

{raises eyebrow}

erm no im not willing to risk that!

you risk it everytime you get on a bus. you just tell you self that you trust the driver, who is a random stranger and you have no idea what he is going through in his life... what if he is suicidal?

To function without trust.

Do people generally trust anyone at all anyway, until they do something for you not to trust them?

To a degree - it is normal and part of society.

Then there will be some that you will trust more - maybe because they had a chance to abuse your trust and didn't, or because you understand them better or some other reason.

And then there will be people you trust less - that may be because they may abuse the trust or some other reason such as having a different view on matters than you.

I would never, ever love someone that I didnt trust. Its interlinked for me.

If I didnt trust someone it would be cos I felt he/she was a liar, dishonest, shady, sneaky etc...and thats not someone I could ever love.

[quote=MuslimSister]I would never, ever love someone that I didnt trust. Its interlinked for me.

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What about family?

e.g. when kids lie to their parents or the parents know they can't trust their child...it doesn't stop the parents loving their kid...?

well when i get onto a bus i just think "its gonna get me from A to B" (not even the driver but "it") i guess expecting to get there safely would be the same as trusting.

i think trust and love are as important as each other not one is more important and there are different kinds of trust, you don't have to always trust someone to love them and vise versa imo.

[quote=wednesday]A bond between a parent and a child (especially mothers) is nothing like that of "bond" between person A and person B. Correct me if I'm wrong.[/quote]

No, I completely agree. I just assumed we were talking about love generally.

[quote=MuslimSister]I would never, ever love someone that I didnt trust. Its interlinked for me.

If I didnt trust someone it would be cos I felt he/she was a liar, dishonest, shady, sneaky etc...and thats not someone I could ever love. [/quote]

Can you honestly say that you've never lied to someone that you love?

And also, one of the only halaal situations to lie is between a husband and wife. What does that say about Allah's (swt) opinion on the relationship between love and trust?

That hadith only refers to white lies, ie.
Habeeba: Do I look fat in this?
Husband: (silently) A little bit, no I can't say that! (out loud) No, of course not!

"To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved." - George MacDonald

[quote=The Lamp]That hadith only refers to white lies, ie.
Habeeba: Do I look fat in this?
Husband: (silently) A little bit, no I can't say that! (out loud) No, of course not![/quote]

How do you know Sheikh?

It was posted on here before, "Sheikh". ;P

Trusting some one before you love them makes more sense because surely love grows. Trust amogst each other is vital to have amogst each other other wise it makes life more complex!

Any one agree?

WHat if you trust and love someone, and then the trust is broken?

I doubt the love would just evaporate - human life is more messy than that and sometimes you will hate yourself for caring etc... but I doubt it will be all black and white.

[quote=You]WHat if you trust and love someone, and then the trust is broken?

I doubt the love would just evaporate - human life is more messy than that and sometimes you will hate yourself for caring etc... but I doubt it will be all black and white.[/quote]

i was gna write that but u beat me to it! not exactly that obviously. 🙂

Is it too much to ask for both?

Depends on the person.