Nigerian advises against 86 wives

Noor

Nigerian advises against 86 wives
By Andrew Walker
BBC News, Bida, Nigeria

Baba Mohammed Bello Abubakar
Mr Bello Abubakar says he does not go and find women, they come to him

Nigerian Mohammed Bello Abubakar, 84, has advised other men not to follow his example and marry 86 women.

The former teacher and Muslim preacher, who lives in Niger State with his wives and at least 170 children, says he is able to cope only with the help of God.

"A man with 10 wives would collapse and die, but my own power is given by Allah. That is why I have been able to control 86 of them," he told the BBC.

He says his wives have sought him out because of his reputation as a healer.

"I don't go looking for them, they come to me. I will consider the fact that God has asked me to do it and I will just marry them."

But such claims have alienated the Islamic authorities in Nigeria, who have branded his family a cult.

Ganiat Bello Abubakar
When you marry a man with 86 wives you know he knows how to look after them
Wife Ganiat Bello Abubakar

Most Muslim scholars agree that a man is allowed to have four wives, as long as he can treat them equally.

But Mr Bello Abubakar says there is no punishment stated in the Koran for having more than four wives.

"To my understanding the Koran does not place a limit and it is up to what your own power, your own endowment and ability allows," he says.

"God did not say what the punishment should be for a man who has more than four wives, but he was specific about the punishment for fornication and adultery."

'Order from God'

As Mr Bello Abubakar emerged from his compound to speak to the BBC, his wives and children broke out into a praise song.

Mohammed Bello Abubakar of Bida and some of his wives
Some of Mr Bello Abubakar's wives are younger than some of his children

Most of his wives are less than a quarter of his age - and many are younger than some of his own children.

The wives the BBC spoke to say they met Mr Bello Abubakar when they went to him to seek help for various illnesses, which they say he cured.

"As soon as I met him the headache was gone," says Sharifat Bello Abubakar, who was 25 at the time and Mr Bello Abubakar 74.

"God told me it was time to be his wife. Praise be to God I am his wife now."

Ganiat Mohammed Bello has been married to the man everyone calls "Baba" for 20 years.

When she was in secondary school her mother took her for a consultation with Mr Bello Abubakar and he proposed afterwards.

"I said I couldn't marry an older man, but he said it was directly an order from God," she says.

She married another man but they divorced and she returned to Mr Bello Abubakar.

"I am now the happiest woman on earth. When you marry a man with 86 wives you know he knows how to look after them," she said.

No work

Mr Bello Abubakar and his wives do not work and he has no visible means of supporting such a large family.

Inside "Baba's" house
Many of the wives live three to a room, some have seven children

He refuses to say how he makes enough money to pay for the huge cost of feeding and clothing so many people.

Every mealtime they cook three 12kg bags of rice which all adds up to $915 (£457) every day.

"It's all from God," he says.

Other residents of Bida, the village where he lives in the northern Nigerian state, say they do not know how he supports the family.

According to one of his wives, Mr Bello Abubakar sometimes asks his children to go and beg for 200 naira ($1.69, £0.87), which if they all did so would bring in about $290 (£149).

Most of his wives live in a squalid, unfinished house in Bida; others live in his house in Lagos, Nigeria's commercial capital.

He refuses to allow any of his family or other devotees to take medicine and says he does not believe that malaria exists.

Hafsat Bello Abubakar
They were sick and we told God and God said their time has come
Wife Hafsat Bello Abubakar

"As you sit here if you have any illness I can see it and just remove it," he says.

But not everyone can be cured and one of his wives, Hafsat Bello Mohammed, says two of her children have died.

"They were sick and we told God and God said their time has come."

She says that most of the wives see Mr Bello Abubakar as next in line from the Prophet Muhammad.

Indeed, he claims the Prophet Muhammad speaks to him personally and gives detailed descriptions of his experiences.

It is a serious claim for a Muslim to make.

"This is heresy, he is a heretic," says Ustaz Abubakar Siddique, an imam of Abuja's Central Mosque.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/africa/7547148.stm

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Seraphim — Thu, 4 Sep 2008 - 16:46

[quote=Ya'qub][quote=Courage]Yeah I know those girls have consented to it but isn't there a 90% chance that they'll get emotionally attached while he can just walk free?[/quote]

How come your such an expert on women even though you're not married?

no stereotyping please.[/quote]

LOL 😂

Thats a good question.

Naz* (not verified) — Thu, 4 Sep 2008 - 19:32

[quote=Courage]Yeah I know those girls have consented to it but isn't there a 90% chance that they'll get emotionally attached while he can just walk free?[/quote]

Its more like a 0.01%.

How can a woman become clingy over a bloke who she doesnt know the first thing about and all shes had with him is a physical relationship?

Naz — Sat, 6 Sep 2008 - 10:46

Ive heard of Pretty woman but never watched it (It has Richard gere in it!). Had to google it to find the synopsis. You cant really compare a film to real life coz in a film there is always going to be a happy ending and in real life thats not always the case. If something like that was to happen in real life i would give it two months before they called it quits!

3 men and a baby is about some woman who leaves her baby on the doorstep of 3 guys (i think theyr all mates). They decide to keep the baby and take it in turns to look after it. In the end the woman comes back for it and they live happily ever after!

Ya'qub — Sat, 6 Sep 2008 - 13:43

You've forgotten the vital ingredient! I've added it in bold.

[quote=Naz]

3 men and a baby is about some woman who leaves her baby on the doorstep of 3 guys (i think theyr all mates). They decide to keep the baby and take it in turns to look after it with hilarious consequences! In the end the woman comes back for it and they live happily ever after![/quote]

Naz — Sun, 7 Sep 2008 - 17:27

[quote=Ya'qub]You've forgotten the vital ingredient! I've added it in bold.

[quote=Naz]

3 men and a baby is about some woman who leaves her baby on the doorstep of 3 guys (i think theyr all mates). They decide to keep the baby and take it in turns to look after it with hilarious consequences! In the end the woman comes back for it and they live happily ever after![/quote][/quote]

The only funny bit i remember is when they all gathered around trying to work out how the nappy goes on. Ahhhh men 😂

1R4M — Sun, 7 Sep 2008 - 18:29

[quote=Naz*][quote=Courage]Yeah I know those girls have consented to it but isn't there a 90% chance that they'll get emotionally attached while he can just walk free?[/quote]

Its more like a 0.01%.

How can a woman become clingy over a bloke who she doesnt know the first thing about and all shes had with him is a physical relationship?

[/quote]

actually
when a woman sleeps with a man, a chemical is released in her which makes her get attached to him

thats a fact...unfortunately!

1R4M — Sun, 7 Sep 2008 - 23:16

[quote=wednesday]by chemical are you refering to hormones?[/quote]
LOL!!!

maybe...

I THINK,
or its some chemaical called....something
im not sure
whatever

u get my point anyway mr wednesday!

Seraphim — Sun, 7 Sep 2008 - 23:21

[quote=1R4M][quote=wednesday]by chemical are you refering to hormones?[/quote]
LOL!!!

maybe...

I THINK,
or its some chemaical called....something
im not sure
whatever

u get my point anyway mr wednesday![/quote]

1st ofcourse they're hormones what else kinda chemicals runs through human vains??? Acid??

2ndly Wednesday is a girl.... as in Wednesday Adams.

And thirdly that theory is ridiculous

Naz — Mon, 8 Sep 2008 - 20:55

[quote=1R4M][quote=Naz*][quote=Courage]Yeah I know those girls have consented to it but isn't there a 90% chance that they'll get emotionally attached while he can just walk free?[/quote]

Its more like a 0.01%.

How can a woman become clingy over a bloke who she doesnt know the first thing about and all shes had with him is a physical relationship?

[/quote]

actually
when a woman sleeps with a man, a chemical is released in her which makes her get attached to him

thats a fact...unfortunately![/quote]

😂
Im sorry but i dont believe that for a second. There are many women who remarry again when their first marriage doesnt work out.

Ya'qub — Tue, 9 Sep 2008 - 18:58

[quote=wednesday](i'm not gna elaborate on this, since no one paid much attntion in their genes and genetics lessons) there are hormones that stimulate certain 'feelings' but there are other factors involved ... and its not just in she-males but in males too (a different form obviously) full stop... about being 'clingy', i don't think its a long-term reaction, but more of a short-term, just for-the-moment thing [/quote]

I know you mean 'women' when you say 'she-males', but the term actually refers to some hermaphrodites so you shouldn't really use it.

Naz — Tue, 9 Sep 2008 - 20:24

[quote=1R4M]it's true!
well
apparently anyway

hey dont criticise me its just what I heard on tv...[/quote]

Sorry im not criticising. I was having one of those days yesterday and when i read your post it made me laugh. Thank you 😃

xSmurfy786x — Tue, 9 Sep 2008 - 20:30

[quote=Noor]wow

u still remember?

i don't think i wrote more than a page in all 3 science books in the last year. [/quote]

talkin bwt biology, AS biology is sooo cool..!
we was lookin at DNA today, hilarious coz all ppl from my school were using a microscope properly for first time haha coz at school we didnt do no experiments coz we was all 2 naughty lmfao...!

Naz — Tue, 9 Sep 2008 - 20:33

[quote=xSmurfy786x][quote=Noor]wow

u still remember?

i don't think i wrote more than a page in all 3 science books in the last year. [/quote]

talkin bwt biology, AS biology is sooo cool..!
we was lookin at DNA today, hilarious coz all ppl from my school were using a microscope properly for first time haha coz at school we didnt do no experiments coz we was all 2 naughty lmfao...!
[/quote]

What so you werent even allowed to dissect an eye? The pupil is hardcore, it took me ages to pierce it and i was using a scalpel!

xSmurfy786x — Tue, 9 Sep 2008 - 20:37

[quote=Naz]

What so you werent even allowed to dissect an eye? The pupil is hardcore, it took me ages to pierce it and i was using a scalpel!
[/quote]

at secondary school?
hell no hahaha!
we werent allowed 2 do anywhere near ANY scientific eqiptment - except googles haha!
some of the boys let all the animals in our lab out once aswell.. after that for about 2months, we had the rest of our science lessons in a classroom lmaoo!

Funzo — Tue, 9 Sep 2008 - 20:54

[quote=xSmurfy786x][quote=Naz]

What so you werent even allowed to dissect an eye? The pupil is hardcore, it took me ages to pierce it and i was using a scalpel!
[/quote]

at secondary school?
hell no hahaha!
we werent allowed 2 do anywhere near ANY scientific eqiptment - except googles haha!
some of the boys let all the animals in our lab out once aswell.. after that for about 2months, we had the rest of our science lessons in a classroom lmaoo!
[/quote]
whos your exam board?

Seraphim — Tue, 9 Sep 2008 - 23:26

[quote=wednesday][quote=Ya'qub][quote=wednesday](i'm not gna elaborate on this, since no one paid much attntion in their genes and genetics lessons) there are hormones that stimulate certain 'feelings' but there are other factors involved ... and its not just in she-males but in males too (a different form obviously) full stop... about being 'clingy', i don't think its a long-term reaction, but more of a short-term, just for-the-moment thing [/quote]

I know you mean 'women' when you say 'she-males', but the term actually refers to some hermaphrodites so you shouldn't really use it.[/quote]

thank you for letting everyone else know! lol ... I know what it means, smart pants ... (do i need to justify my actions?)[/quote]

Yes. Id prefer it if you didnt use that term.

Omrow — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 - 13:52

Double sandard with Shias is that they want to marry
women of other sects and religions but would not let others marry their women.

If they are so into temp sex then why the double standard?