Does the Hijaab/Beard turn you into a tramp?

MuslimSister —

Salaam,

I was thinking a while back that it must have been about 3months since I had a hair cut and about 5years since I coloured it.

Intrestingly enough, before I was a hijaabi I'd cut my hair every 4weeks, coloured it regularly, made sure I changed my hairstyle on a daily basis. Brought new clothes on a weekly basis - kept up with the colours and styles of the season. Was very conscious about what I ate (in high school days, I only ate two meals a day).

I used to spend about 1-2hours in front on the mirror on a daily basis.

But then when I turned into a hijaabi, my priorities changed. Since, I no longer dressed to impress, it was a non issue weather or not my shoes or handbag were'so last year'.

Now I wonder...is this neccessarily a good thing?

A brother was telling me once that before his beard days, he'd spend up to 3hours in the gym. Now, he has a gut.

I know a girl who was the prettiest and most accessorised girl in high school...now she doesnt bother to wash her hair under her hijaab and goes years without cutting it.

Vanity is not a good thing...but nor is letting yourself go.

Some of the most glamorous and prettiest women I've met were the Niqabi's in Saudia Arabia...

I've got some of my vanity back...joined the gym, go swimming weekly, conscious of what I eat, have cut/coloured my hair to look like what it was when I was in high school, started doing my nails etc again.

Did any of you guys find that once you started to don the hijaab/beard...it was like "so who care's - what I look like?"

Wasalaam

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Noor — Thu, 6 Mar 2008 - 17:18

[quote=Courage]Look Muslim Bro, you can say it if you want, but I think pretty much everyone is getting a bit annoyed.[/quote]

they are?

Ya'qub — Thu, 6 Mar 2008 - 18:46

[quote=Noor][quote=Courage]Look Muslim Bro, you can say it if you want, but I think pretty much everyone is getting a bit annoyed.[/quote]

they are?[/quote]

I think he means that HE is getting a bit annoyed.

MuslimSisLilSis — Thu, 6 Mar 2008 - 21:18

Wearing a hijaab most definately does not make me a tramp.. I don't think there's anything wrong with dressing stylishly or keeping on top of grooming yourself whilst wearing a hijaab; I always cut and style my hair regularly because even though no one see's my hair at uni or when i go out etc, i dont cover up in front of family and cousins. It all depends on you as an individual.. if out of simplicity or modest you choose not to do yourself up thats fine but I personally wouldn't feel comfortable going to uni with unwashed/uncombed hair underneath my hijaab.. i'd be too paranoid that my friends or people near me could smell the grease lol.. What i don't like is those who do not make an effort bitching about those who do; I got hijaab wearing girls on my course who are always bitching and hating on those hijaabi's who do themselves up and actually make an effort. End of the day it all depends on the person.. dont tar all hijaabi's with the same brush.

Ya'qub — Thu, 6 Mar 2008 - 21:26

[quote=MuslimSisLilSis]Wearing a hijaab most definately does not make me a tramp.. I don't think there's anything wrong with dressing stylishly or keeping on top of grooming yourself whilst wearing a hijaab; I always cut and style my hair regularly because even though no one see's my hair at uni or when i go out etc, i dont cover up in front of family and cousins. It all depends on you as an individual.. if out of simplicity or modest you choose not to do yourself up thats fine but I personally wouldn't feel comfortable going to uni with unwashed/uncombed hair underneath my hijaab.. i'd be too paranoid that my friends or people near me could smell the grease lol.. What i don't like is those who do not make an effort bitching about those who do; I got hijaab wearing girls on my course who are always bitching and hating on those hijaabi's who do themselves up and actually make an effort. End of the day it all depends on the person.. dont tar all hijaabi's with the same brush.[/quote]

salam.

Can you please introduce yourself on the 'New Members' thread.

Thank you

MuslimSisLilSis — Thu, 6 Mar 2008 - 21:39

I find that quite offensive..
I am a legend around here.. i dont need 2 introduce myself 😛
Just ask any old member about me, you'll find out all you need to know.. and doesnt my username give anything away??

MuslimSisLilSis — Fri, 7 Mar 2008 - 00:20

[quote=Irfan.Khan]Muslimsislilsis your back! where the heck have you been?!?[/quote]

Been here all this time.. Just have been 2 busy to post. In final yr at uni.. and now in final semester so jus been workin hard this yr, really want to graduate with a 2:1 so please make dua for me.

Also as u probably knw by now my sis is gettin married.. and i am the official wedding planner so now really busy with sorting stuff out 4 the wedding; its the first wedding in our whole family from both mum and dads side so got high expectations 2 meet.. But you'll be seeing more of me on the forum; will be a welcome break frm everything.

Naz — Fri, 7 Mar 2008 - 09:46

[quote=MuslimSisLilSis]What i don't like is those who do not make an effort bitching about those who do[/quote]

There are just as many hijabis who do themselves up that B***h constantly about tramps and other hijabis that do themselves up.

The other week i went to an Islamic talk and there were two hijabis done up who were sat two rows in front of me. When i came in both of them turned round and chunked me a snide for no apparent reason. Then one of them says to the other one "oh you should see what she is wearing." She tried to describe me to the other hijabi but she couldn’t hear so she goes il text you!

I was wearing a black jalabia, green hoody, grey hijab and black boots (ok the hijab and hoody didnt go but hey its hardy a crime)

Alisha — Fri, 7 Mar 2008 - 10:32

I've been wearing scarf for half my life and started wearing jilbaab over a year ago now. I wear black all the time :S I do have coloured cardigans/hijaabs etc but I rarely wear them.

It's nice to wear colored clothes once in a while but not too bright.

Funzo — Sun, 9 Mar 2008 - 00:28

[quote=MuslimSisLilSis][quote=Irfan.Khan]Muslimsislilsis your back! where the heck have you been?!?[/quote]

Been here all this time.. Just have been 2 busy to post. In final yr at uni.. and now in final semester so jus been workin hard this yr, really want to graduate with a 2:1 so please make dua for me.

Also as u probably knw by now my sis is gettin married.. and i am the official wedding planner so now really busy with sorting stuff out 4 the wedding; its the first wedding in our whole family from both mum and dads side so got high expectations 2 meet.. But you'll be seeing more of me on the forum; will be a welcome break frm everything.[/quote]
Woah your sis is getting married! inshallah you will get a 2:1. Official wedding planner, i feel sorry for your sister..... did i say that out loud, lol.

MuslimSister — Sun, 9 Mar 2008 - 22:13

'Upkeep' is expensive and very very time consuming - thats the main drawback.

Plus, it also can seem pointless if you have to cover ...I mean, who'd waste hours straigtening/curling their hair if at the end you're just gonna cover it with a hijaab.

Ya'qub — Sun, 9 Mar 2008 - 23:04

[quote=MuslimSister]who'd waste hours straigtening/curling their hair if at the end you're just gonna cover it with a hijaab. [/quote]

The same people who tidy their house every day even if noone is coming round to visit.

Angel — Sun, 9 Mar 2008 - 23:09

Cleaning up the house is part of being hygienic so you gota do it...you dont want crumbs of food lying about!!

It's true, its more satisfying when someone can see your effort and compliment you on it.

P.s - lilsis welcome back sweety! x

Ya'qub — Sun, 9 Mar 2008 - 23:14

[quote=Angel]Cleaning up the house is part of being hygienic so you gota do it...you dont want crumbs of food lying about!!

It's true, its more satisfying when someone can see your effort and compliment you on it.

P.s - lilsis welcome back sweety! x

[/quote]

I said tidy, not clean.

Same way when people were talking about being a 'tramp', they didn't mean not washing yourself, they meant about 'doing yourself up'.

But your Scottish so I'll let you off!

Angel — Sun, 9 Mar 2008 - 23:22

Being untidy could also mean having dirty laundry lying about thus being unhygienic and germs everywhere!

Anyhooo this not the topic, if i remeber correctly, you're a scotty too!

Funzo — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 - 17:53

[quote=Ya'qub][quote=Angel]you're a scotty too!

[/quote]

Aye!

Alhamdulillah!![/quote]
No he just likes to think he's a wee scot, joking.

MuslimSister — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 - 21:54

[quote=Ya'qub][quote=MuslimSister]who'd waste hours straigtening/curling their hair if at the end you're just gonna cover it with a hijaab. [/quote]

The same people who tidy their house every day even if noone is coming round to visit.[/quote]

Totally different.

Wearing a scarf over curled/straightened hair just flattens and ruins all your effort.

Courage — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 - 09:17

[quote=Ya'qub][quote=Angel]Cleaning up the house is part of being hygienic so you gota do it...you dont want crumbs of food lying about!!

It's true, its more satisfying when someone can see your effort and compliment you on it.

P.s - lilsis welcome back sweety! x

[/quote]

I said tidy, not clean.

Same way when people were talking about being a 'tramp', they didn't mean not washing yourself, they meant about 'doing yourself up'.

But your Scottish so I'll let you off![/quote]

Aren't you Scottish too, Yaqub?

MuslimSisLilSis — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 - 15:14

Got this in a forwarded email.. i found it pretty funny and true esp in uni environments; u tend 2 c all types of hijaabi's there.

WHAT HIJABI ARE U?

1) HIJABI HOEs: They are the Hijabis that wear the Hijab then try to even out not showing their hair with short sleeves, capris and the all famous low cut tops. These girls give other Hijabis a bad name. You might spot one of these “Hijabis” in a group of Ahem! guy “friends”. This group of too “friendly” Hijabis do everything a muslim let alone a Hijabi should NOT do. We hope none of u fit this description…if u do…we say to u with nothing but love…Respect the Hijab…Stop being a HOE.

2) HALF HIJABIs: These lovely ladies are the ones caught in the Limbo between Hijab or No Hijab. “to be or not to be” is the question for these girls. With thier Hijab half on thier head and half off…u never know what they will do next! On the bright side though guys dont have to wonder whats hiding beneath those hijabs cuz these half hijabis give everyone a sneak peak 24/7. We say to ya’ll with nothing but frustration..MAKE UP UR MIND! (ur confusing the non-muslims.)

3) HOT HIJABIs: Ya’ll know who u are. these are the fabulous lookin girls that usallay match from thier hijabs to thier flipflops. These brightly colorfull Hijabis manage to look Oh So Fabulous while covering themselves completely. We give Two Thumbs Up to these Beauties! Keep up the good work!

4) HARDCORE HIJABIs: You’ve seen’em. The girls who are so Hijabi they might as well be Nikabi. These are the girls that dont wear alot of makeup, wear abayahs and have that look that says “dont screw with me”. While these girls can at times be scary…We have nothing but respect for the Fabulous Few. These Hijabis are rare …but then all great things are.

5) HIJABI HOPEFULLs: These are the girls that cover themselves modestly, respect the Hijab and one day hope to become one of us. We have one thing to say to ya’ll…Come Join Us on The Other Side…We promise Its better here.

LilSis (not verified) — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 - 21:03

[quote=Ya'qub]You forgot 'Hojabis'.

Not sure what that means...[/quote]

Read Number 1.. Hijabi Hoez

Amal — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 - 16:36

Its easy to become a lazy slob and let yourself go, and it can become a bad habit.. Maintain good hygiene, and keep yourself healthy and prepped up and nice - im going to go as far as saying that i think girls/women SHOULD take EXTRA care and effort in maintaining themselves well (that includes body, mind and soul)

Courage — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 - 14:22

[quote=Naz][quote=MuslimSisLilSis]What i don't like is those who do not make an effort bitching about those who do[/quote]

There are just as many hijabis who do themselves up that B***h constantly about tramps and other hijabis that do themselves up.

The other week i went to an Islamic talk and there were two hijabis done up who were sat two rows in front of me. When i came in both of them turned round and chunked me a snide for no apparent reason. Then one of them says to the other one "oh you should see what she is wearing." She tried to describe me to the other hijabi but she couldn’t hear so she goes il text you!

I was wearing a black jalabia, green hoody, grey hijab and black boots (ok the hijab and hoody didnt go but hey its hardy a crime)
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I think a Hijab and a hoody looks quite slick! Reminds me of someone who you shouldn't muck around or else she'll "sort you out"! But apart from that they're decent people.

MuslimSister — Tue, 7 Dec 2010 - 08:47

Really interesting topic - (love taking a trip down memory lane).

And Yes. Some people do up their game when they're married (I know I did). However, many also let themselves go cos they feel comfortable and are out of the 'game' - i.e. cos they're married now- there's no longer the feeling of the 'chase' and the need to impress anyone.

However, in the last two year my view has greatly been affected by the company I keep... since moving to Egypt and now living in Dubai - I've learnt that the covered up Arabs are THE most well kept and glamourous women in the world. I guess environment and company has a effect on how you look/dress as well.

Bijou — Tue, 7 Dec 2010 - 09:51

[quote=MuslimSister]Really interesting topic - (love taking a trip down memory lane).

And Yes. Some people do up their game when they're married (I know I did). However, many also let themselves go cos they feel comfortable and are out of the 'game' - i.e. cos they're married now- there's no longer the feeling of the 'chase' and the need to impress anyone.

However, in the last two year my view has greatly been affected by the company I keep... since moving to Egypt and now living in Dubai - I've learnt that the covered up Arabs are THE most well kept and glamourous women in the world. I guess environment and company has a effect on how you look/dress as well.[/quote]

Oh wow you live in Dubai? Hmm I've had a thing for that place for some time now, what's it like? Must be a huge lifestyle change huh?

This is actually the first time I've come across this topic and certainly is interesting! After reading the first few posts I had had enough tbh. I don't understand the concept of 'letting yourself go' just because you put on a hijab or grow a beard?
I started wearing the hijab a long long time ago but I still do the NORMAL things like brush my hair, wash my hair regularly, straighten my hair, colour it also and get it trimmed and put makeup on!! I do it for myself though and not for anyone else...now since I'm married I do it for myself and my husband, but still it comes down to the same thing.

A lot of people on here seem to do the normal things like brushing their hair for other people or just because they have a hijab on they don't see use of looking after yourself? Hmmm very bizzare.

In Islam it is important to look after yourself, that does not mean only cleanliness although it is one of the main issues. Looking after your health, eating healthy food and doing some regular exercise, combing your hair lol are NORMAL factors of hygiene and cleaniless.

Oh and btw I'm not sure how many of you have actually been Leicester, but you go there and you feel like you've entered an Arabian country with all the women covered up wearing niqab and the men with Kurta or Jubbahs and huge beards (which at first I really liked, I was naiive), but the fact of the matter is that its all for show. They portray an outward impression of being Islamic and pure and chaste and religious however they are in fact the complete opposite to this, they're unjust, selfish, money lovers, rude, cunning. Of course I'm not saying ALL of them are like that, but I've had A LOT of experience with people like this. The point of this is to just say that wearing a Jubbah or salwar kameez does not make you a better Muslim or a better person and if you believe you are following the sunnah by doing this and this is enough then your wrong. Becoming a Muslim if from the heart and your characteristics,first these needs to be changed before you start wearing a jubbah or growing your being in relation to follow the sunnah.

You will not get asked on the day of judgement did you dress how the Prophet dressed? You will get asked about your nature, personality and Sunnah of the Nabi in terms of his character traits.