How Birth Order Shapes Your Personality

MuslimSisLilSis

In social situations the first-born child may feel anxious and fear that they may fail the expectations they put on themselves and the expectations of others (Hoopes & Harper, 1987). The first child operates within the family by being responsible for family members and the productiveness of each member (Hoopes & Harper, 1987). When the child thinks productivity is not obtained (or not to the level of quality they wish for) they view this as failing because they are not doing their “job” (Hoopes & Harper, 1987). However, in social situations first children learn well by observing others (especially adults) and integrate their observations into social interactions (Hoopes & Harper, 1987). First children do not want to fail and they may mask their emotions (Hoopes & Harper, 1987). The child will hide their emotions because they do not want others to view them as weak or as a failure (Hoopes & Harper, 1987).

The middle or second born child or children often have the sense of not belonging. They fight to receive attention from parents and others because they feel many times they are being ignored or dubbed off as being the same as another sibling. Being in the middle a child can feel insecure. The middle child often lacks drive and looks for direction from the first born child. Sometimes a middle child feels out of place because they are not over achievers and like to go with the flow of things.

I'm a VERY strong beliver in all of the above-I think ur birth order does SHAPE ur peronslity/future etc

anyone notice how the baby of the family and the eldest is ALWAYS loved the most and parents are more protective of them even if parents wont admit it

what number are u in your family and how tru are these stereotypes?

[url=http://www.theminddoctor.com/Birth%20Order.htm]LINK[/url]

Forum

Angel — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 - 22:21

Does anyone know of these "batty" boys, who are the only male sibling in the family? i have never come across ppl like that, odd thing is i have come across a batty boy who is into all sorty girly stuff and has four bros and no sis's!!??

Seraphim — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 - 22:25

[quote="angel"]Does anyone know of these "batty" boys, who are the only male sibling in the family? i have never come across ppl like that, odd thing is i have come across a batty boy who is into all sorty girly stuff and has four bros and no sis's!!??[/quote]

wot?

You've never come across batty boys? Or a batty boy as an only child?
Is that even relavant to them being all ... well... batty (for the lack of a better word)?

Angel — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 - 22:28

[quote="Seraph"][quote="angel"]Does anyone know of these "batty" boys, who are the only male sibling in the family? i have never come across ppl like that, odd thing is i have come across a batty boy who is into all sorty girly stuff and has four bros and no sis's!!??[/quote]

wot?

You've never come across batty boys? Or a batty boy as an only child?
Is that even relavant to them being all ... well... batty (for the lack of a better word)?[/quote]

no i have seen many batty boys but not baty boy as only male child.. well that guy is the only batty one, all his bro's are pretty much straight as you can be!

Seraphim — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 - 22:32

[quote="angel"][quote="Seraph"][quote="angel"]Does anyone know of these "batty" boys, who are the only male sibling in the family? i have never come across ppl like that, odd thing is i have come across a batty boy who is into all sorty girly stuff and has four bros and no sis's!!??[/quote]

wot?

You've never come across batty boys? Or a batty boy as an only child?
Is that even relavant to them being all ... well... batty (for the lack of a better word)?[/quote]

no i have seen many batty boys but not baty boy as only male child.. well that guy is the only batty one, all his bro's are pretty much straight as you can be![/quote]

Once again relavance?

Are you trying to say that there a connection between the number of siblings and the persons eventual ... :roll: preference?

Angel — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 - 22:40

[quote="Seraph"]
wot?

Once again relavance?

Are you trying to say that there a connection between the number of siblings and the persons eventual ... :roll: preference?[/quote]

well thats what i wana knw, i am askin those who think male only siblings become somewhat batty or in touch with their feminine side more so, is there any evidence/ have ppl seen it happen etc?

keep up :roll:

Seraphim — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 - 22:47

[quote="angel"][quote="Seraph"]
wot?

Once again relavance?

Are you trying to say that there a connection between the number of siblings and the persons eventual ... :roll: preference?[/quote]

well thats what i wana knw, i am askin those who think male only siblings become somewhat batty or in touch with their feminine side more so, is there any evidence/ have ppl seen it happen etc?

keep up :roll:[/quote]

honestly...

read between the lines; i dont think there a connection.

i've known guys who've had many sisters in their family and they turned out straight. I've also met some guys who were an 'only child' and they seemed to be straight as well... i dont think its a sibling related issue.

The cause is elsewhere altho modern science has yet to say where that is exactly.

Angel — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 - 22:51

[quote="Seraph"]

honestly...

read between the lines; i dont think there a connection.

i've known guys who've had many sisters in their family and they turned out straight. I've also met some guys who were an 'only child' and they seemed to be straight as well... i dont think its a sibling related issue.

The cause is elsewhere altho modern science has yet to say where that is exactly.[/quote]

Seraph its not bout readin between the lines i agree i dont think it has a connection cuz i havnt come across this but i wana know those who have! is that to hard to understand?

Seraphim — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 - 22:54

[quote="angel"][quote="Seraph"]

honestly...

read between the lines; i dont think there a connection.

i've known guys who've had many sisters in their family and they turned out straight. I've also met some guys who were an 'only child' and they seemed to be straight as well... i dont think its a sibling related issue.

The cause is elsewhere altho modern science has yet to say where that is exactly.[/quote]

Seraph its not bout readin between the lines i agree i dont think it has a connection cuz i havnt come across this but i wana know those who have! is that to hard to understand?[/quote]

Whats hard to understand is a really strong scottish accent.

Along with why you think being a batty boy would be related to sibling. Ofcourse i dont deny that sibling have some effect on each other but i doubt anything that big.

Angel — Wed, 13 Jul 2005 - 23:01

[quote="Seraph"]

Whats hard to understand is a really strong scottish accent.

Along with why you think being a batty boy would be related to sibling. Ofcourse i dont deny that sibling have some effect on each other but i doubt anything that big.[/quote]

We are havin a non-verbal convo here, you english people :roll: and i hvnt even used any scottish in this convo!

i didnt say being a batty boy would be related to siblings, but ppl have suggested that and i wana know why, just out of curiousity...

Hope u understood that "scottish" post