Saudi woman wants to divorce after husband lifts her veil

Showkat —

Never showed her face in 30 years of marriage:Saudi woman wants divorce after husband lifts her veil
http://www.alarabiya.net/articles/2007/10/08/40103.html

A 50-year-old Saudi woman asked for divorce after her husband lifted her face veil while she was sleeping, local press reported.

For 30 years, the wife said she never showed her face to her husband in conformity with the tradition of her native village near the south western Saudi city of Khamis Mushayt.

"After all these years, he tries to commit such a big mistake," the wife told Saudi newspaper Al-Riyadh, after she left the house in total disbelief.

She said the husband apologized and promised never to do it again.

This is not the first case of husbands who have not seen their wives' faces in decades.

In the past Al Arabiya has reported the case of Ali al-Qahtani, whose wife had been wearing the face veil for the entire ten years of their marrage. When he tried to take it off, she threatened to leave and only decided to stay after he swore never to try again.

Hassan Al-Atibi threatened to marry another woman if his wife didn't show him her face. The woman nominated one of her friends who doesn't observe this tradition as a possible new wife for him, saying this would be better than her showing her face.

And neither the husband or children of Om Rabea al-Gahdaray, 70, have ever seen her face. Al-Gahdaray says it is a family tradition, also followed by mother and sisters, which her husband accepted and never tried to change.

When asked how she could have kids without her husband ever seeing her face, she replied: "Marriage is about love, not faces."

Comment:

I suppose after 30 years most men would be curious to find out what there wife looks like and I am surprised that this man accepted such marital terms willingly. Is this opinion from Islam or an extreme understanding?

Her last comment is true and makes a lot of sense "Marriage is about love, not faces."

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Seraphim — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 - 14:47

[quote="Showkat"]
I suppose after 30 years most men would be curious to find out what there wife looks like and I am surprised that this man accepted such marital terms willingly. Is this opinion from Islam or an extreme understanding?

Her last comment is true and makes a lot of sense "Marriage is about love, not faces."[/quote]

I suppose thats true.

But you gotta realize that a guys gonna be curious as to what she looks like. And if a married guy cant look at his own wife, then who the hell should he look at??

would she have prefered if he looked @ some1 else?

Naz — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 - 19:41

[quote="Showkat"]

Her last comment is true and makes a lot of sense "Marriage is about love, not faces."[/quote]

very true BUT its a proven fact that men are visual beings and women are mental, emotional beings so i can understand his curiosity.

MuslimBro — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 - 00:45

[quote="Showkat"]I suppose after 30 years most men would be curious to find out what there wife looks like and I am surprised that this man accepted such marital terms willingly.[/quote]
After 30 years?! I wouldn't even marry someone if I wasn't allowed to see their face before marriage, it just doesn't seem right :?

You — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 - 13:25

The next news article should be "Saudi woman should be shot".

In a marriage there are rights of the spouse.

Whi8le I doubt "seeing the face" may be written anywhere explicitly (after all it is farcical not to...), how would she fare with other marital affairs?

Or did she tell him to go elsewhere for that too?

MuslimSister — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 - 17:08

[quote="You"]The next news article should be "Saudi woman should be shot".

In a marriage there are rights of the spouse.

Whi8le I doubt "seeing the face" may be written anywhere explicitly (after all it is farcical not to...), how would she fare with other marital affairs?

Or did she tell him to go elsewhere for that too?[/quote]

lol.

I take it the Saudi Niqabi's didnt impress you very much?

MuslimSister — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 - 17:49

The Iranian women always used to get trodden on by me. Their abayah's were so long, they'd sweep the floor.

So Admin, dont be so quiet. A few words on your experience please.

How does it feel to be back? How did you feel when you first saw the Kabah and the blinging Mosque in Medinah? How did you find the food, people and weather?

Beast — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 - 20:19

[quote="Omrow"]Salam

She asked for a divorce just because her husband touched her while she slept?

Wow.

The woman needs a good slap across the face.

Jesus H. Christ.

What is this world coming to!!

Omrow[/quote]

Woah!!! It's Omrow!

Where you been?

MuslimBro — Wed, 7 Nov 2007 - 21:23

[quote="Courage"]How do you kiss someone with a veil on?[/quote]
Husband - closes his eyes
Wife - lifts her veil and kisses him
Husband - opens one eye slightly
Wife - slaps him and then puts her veil on quickly
Husband - opens both eyes and apologises

I find it unbelievable that some people do this. A man will always be curious as to how his wife looks like.

Funzo — Wed, 7 Nov 2007 - 22:35

[quote="MuslimBro"][quote="Courage"]How do you kiss someone with a veil on?[/quote]
Husband - closes his eyes
Wife - lifts her veil and kisses him
Husband - opens one eye slightly
Wife - slaps him and then puts her veil on quickly
Husband - opens both eyes and apologises

I find it unbelievable that some people do this. A man will always be curious as to how his wife looks like.[/quote]
no no u got it all wrong
husband eyes close
wife- lifts her veil and kisses him
husband- opens eye slightly
wife- calls her lawyer for a divorce

imagine her passport photo lol