A friend asked me a good question regarding sex and islam.
Why is it that muslims are shy to talk about sex nowadays but the sahaba and the Rasul (SAW) talked about it openly?
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not in public surely
they did speak about it but in the right context, usually to do with things like prayers, ghusl, contraception etc etc.
Nowadays sex is everywhere, so much so we think it's quite normal to speak about sex without any sense of modesty. There's a time and place for everything. Talking about ones intimate life with a friend over a cup of tea isn't something our prophet (Saw) or Early muslims did nor encouraged, it's utterly disgusting. Some things are meant to remain private.
Its prolly culture. I know alot of Pakistani brothers who would be shy about it but i know black and white brothers who'd ask a question with no hesistation.
People should be careful exactly what they attribute to Sayyidina Nabi salallahu alayhi wa sallam and the Sahaabah Karaam alayhim ridhwaan.
When they asked questions regarding matters of intimacy it was done with great bashfulness and modesty - and it was done in regards to finding out about deen - not for general knowledge and this is evident from the ahadeeth regarding this subject.
Not one will be found where this subject is talked about just for general knowledge, or just to pass time or just as a topic of conversation but rather ALL the questions and ALL the discussions about it were done in relation to and in view of religious laws.
Even then the utmost modesty was exhibited. Sayyidina Ali radhiyallahu anh had to ask a question regarding a private concern but was shy to ask Nabi salallahu alayhi wa sallam due to his relationship through Sayyidatuna Fatimah radhiyallahu anha so someone else was asked to ask about the situation in a general manner, and the answer was recieved.
And then there is the case of one Lady radhiyallahu anha who suffered from a female situation and She radhiyallahu anha got others to ask on her behalf out of bashfulness.
And the curse of ALLAH rests on those who divulge bedroom secrets.
Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar
I agree with Yash, there’s a lack of privacy/modesty nowadays…this issue is more in your face than it should be. Chat shows and soaps encourage the culture of losing your privacy and sense of shame.
However, in regards to learning or teaching people shouldn’t shy away from the issue.
In the time of the Holy Prophet
the women of Ansar were praised because “their modesty did not prevent them from learning”.
Theres nothing wrong with sex, WHAT i know what youre thinking did i just hear him say theres nothing wrong with sex.
Yes sex is actually a blessing because its through this we have children and satisfy our needs.
However just like anything else sex also has rules attached to it and sex is a tool. For example if i have a stick i can use that stick for bad i.e beating someone up to a pulp for no reason or i can do something good with that stick i.e give it to an old person to help them walk etc.
Sex and everything in life which Allah has given us is a blessing which can be used for the better or for the worse depending on our free will.
In this case sex when someone is married is a blessing and can be done whenever you want. Actually there is a dua (prayer) which you can read just before preforming sex that will bless you furthur.
However this is where the tricky part comes into it lol.
Performing sex to someone else who is not you're wife/husband is wrong and people who do this will be cursed it is called Adultry.
People who have sex with whom they please when they are not married are also the cursed ones, this is called fornication.
These two forms of sex are forbidden, thats why it is advisable for someone to get married when they are young coz sexual urges are normal and is a strong urge to fight off. If you are married and performing it with you're partner its all above board.
But if you committing fornication or adultry which is very common nowadays you better stop doing it and repent straight away.
Unfortunately fornication and adultry is everywhere and sometimes it feels like you cant escape it, sometimes it feels like you are doomed like mankind is doomed.
I turn on the tv all i see is sex, i read a newspaper all i see is sex, i turn on the radio and all theyre talking about is sex. I talk to friends and all they talk about is sex, i walk down the street and theres a half naked woman walking down shaking her ass giving me flirty looks.
This damn curse is everywhere thats what shaytaan prays on the most, our weakness.
Like back in the days even in England the women used to dress modestly and wear hijabs like nuns and the men would walk down with their gazes down. Adulterers and fornicaters would be ridiculed.
It seems like that security has gone even in places like Pakistan. I was shocked to see and hear some of the things that happen there.
Everyone just wants to commit adultry and fornication and the worst thing is they think its okay and to stay away from such acts is wrong and theres something wrong why that brother doesnt talk to girls or that sister doesnt flirt with guys and wear makeup.
In Islam it say those people are blessed and will enjoy paradise who when approached by a beautiful man or woman, who they were attracted to kept their distance and did not commit adultry or fornication for fear of Allah S.W.T and the fire of hell.
These people are surely blessed.
Islam is the Key to paradise but without practice it won't open the gates.
lol med you post was very good until you got to the end.
I had to lauf at that.
IMO sex is a private matter and should be kept as such even when simply talking about it.
Feel sorry for Doctors tho when talking about it with their patients.... awkward.
Back in BLACK
What is there to talk about? Shariah and the Qur'an aren't shy about what is natural sexual behavior, and anything beyond telling people where the boundaries are seems superfluous and vulgar.
lol - that wasnt me being over zealous. There are ahadeeth which state to the effect what I have written above. In this country it appears that men boast about their activities and women gossip abt their private affairs aswell - as warning that this type of activity is NOT befitting a muslim I added that last line.
Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar
lol, i know it was just teh way you put it
Back in BLACK
sorry to ask this but are you a muslim?
Islam is the Key to paradise but without practice it won't open the gates.
Is that relavant Kas?
Back in BLACK
no just curious
Islam is the Key to paradise but without practice it won't open the gates.
Dave (AKA Don Karnage) aint a Muslim he's a Christian..I agree with your post Dave.
Yes he has good posts
Islam is the Key to paradise but without practice it won't open the gates.
not as good as Vedono's
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
probably not
Islam is the Key to paradise but without practice it won't open the gates.
mashaALLAH vedenos are really gud.
Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar
Do we know this Vedono person, is he an old member :?
dunno.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
hmm so why is everyone praising the guy? I have never come across him...
sense a bit of sarcasm in Sirus' post.
Unless he meant he found them interesting...
Med's and Kas' posts seemes more straight forward...
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
i was bieng sarcastic!!
dunno bout everyone else tho
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
Why have people been asking this so often lately?
marriage proposal?
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
Maybe they don't expect a christian to be posting a lot on a Muslim forum, dunno :?
marriage proposal
Don't you think thats a bit late...as he is already married! :roll:
Who is the cat of the Forum? MEZ!
Your damn right!
But if he was Muslim he could get married again.
[size=9]Something to think about, Dave... [/size]
hahaha that's the kind of comment that will get me in trouble if she ever runs across it!
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