Is HE Asking For It?

Asking for what exactly?

Salam

Thank you for that Muslim Sister. Very subtle.

A mouse is incapable of giving a woman true happiness. God's rules.

A man is only asking for it when he lets a woman step all over him.

When he is under her thumb, he will eventually be in deep trouble.

If he is a real man then he will never let that happen.

He will know HOW to handle any woman. And that means how to make them happy.

And we all know that all women desire that only a real man handles them.

No women WANTS to associate with a mouse.

Omrow

LOL good one omro

yes he is asking for it when he goes into mouse mode as well

irfan u asked WHAT is he asking for-

it could be a number of things

1- serious attitude from his wife

2-a moody wife

3-a lazy wife

4-a snappy/rowdy wife

5- a slap from his wife etc etc

guys can ask for it as well

a guy is also "Asking for it" if he harasses a girl in the street

he asking for a slap round the face

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I'm talking about harasment with or without Hijaab

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]I'm talking about harasment with or without Hijaab[/quote]

no woman should be harrassed...whether she wears hijab or not

[quote="muslim_kuri"][quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]I'm talking about harasment with or without Hijaab[/quote]

no woman should be harrassed...whether she wears hijab or not[/quote]

thats what i said

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]a guy is also "Asking for it" if he harasses a girl in the street

he asking for a slap round the face[/quote]

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[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"][quote="muslim_kuri"][quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]I'm talking about harasment with or without Hijaab[/quote]

no woman should be harrassed...whether she wears hijab or not[/quote]

thats what i said
[/quote]

i was agreeing with you sis lol

[quote="yashmaki"]im not questioning that no woman should be but there is the solution given to us by Allah, that's all im saying.[/quote]

i agree.

solution is given

but hijaab or no hijaab NO guy shud harass a girl in the street

and too bad we live in a time where for some stupid guys even being covered head to toe aint enough deterence

[quote="MuslimSister"].

Is he asking for it when he eyes up/praises pretty women in the presence of his wife? [/quote]

yep definitely wanting some sort of reaction out of the wife...maybe he wants to see if she gets jealous easily or not? or he wants to see how much she cares...i.e. will she say anything about it or not..........or maybe he just wants a slap lol

[quote="MuslimSister"]Is he asking for it when he thinks its OK for him to associate with women, yet has a serious issue when his wife associates with men? [/quote]

if the wife trusts him then he should also trust his wife...its a two way thing. he shouldnt be associating with women regularly anyway but if it is necessary i.e. workplace then he should be okay with his wife to associate with men when she has to...only when it is necessary though (for both husband+wife) and if not then hes asking for an arguement...n he'l probably get it to

[quote="MuslimSister"]Is he asking for it when he always sides with his mother and agrees with her that his wife IS “witchy and poisonous” and is trying to break up their special bond? [/quote]

yeh he should try and stay nuetral and not take sides...probably really hard but its not nice always siding with the mother because that way hes asking for the marriage to go down the drain!

[quote="MuslimSister"]Is he asking for it when tells his wife how great some other women can cook/drive/work etc? [/quote]

definitely!!! theres no need to mention any other woman in the private affairs of the couple...even if it is talking about cooking!!! man.....no wife would take that lightly!!

[quote="MuslimSister"]Is he asking for it when he thinks it’s OK to physically/verbally abuse women? [/quote]

YEH....thats totally unacceptable..hes looking for a divorce

[quote="MuslimSister"]Is he asking for it when he prefers to keep his wife covered up from head to toe yet thinks that the Hijaab does not apply to him as well?

OR is he asking for it when he prefers that his wife goes out tarted up and gets checked out by other men? [/quote]

those are two extremes and both are not right...if the wife covers because her husband wants her to then he should also take on board a modest approach himself...and the second one....a husband who thinks its okay to see his wife glammed up and walking in the streets is asking for major trouble!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it can lead to all sorts e.g. flirting...adultry...

[quote="MuslimSister"]Is he asking for it when he believes that a “woman’s place should be in the kitchen”? [/quote]

to an extent he might be right..i mean if the wife is always out and about..shopping and stuff then the husband should tell her that you should be at home to cook/work and stuff...but only if she needs telling off..i mean if the wife is okay with the housework and she also wants to work part time then i dont see why the husband should have a problem with it as long as she is covered properly and is working in a decent place

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]and too bad we live in a time where for some stupid guys even being covered head to toe aint enough deterence[/quote]
i dont think thts true! i've never had any problems with guys whilst being covered... and its very noticeable wen i'm walking with friends of mine who do not wear hijab, sleazy guys stare at them but dont dare look at me!

some guys do genuinely respect sisters that cover and they dont even look at them in a bad way but on the other hand there are also guys out there who dont care whether the sister is covered...their sleezy behaviour still remains

Salam

[quote="Aasiyah"]i've never had any problems with guys whilst being covered... and its very noticeable wen i'm walking with friends of mine who do not wear hijab, sleazy guys stare at them but dont dare look at me![/quote]

You must dress very honourably Asiya if you dont attract attention.

And this shows that you have no desire to show your beauty to other men.

Congratulations. Peace be on you and your parents.

Omrow

If a man is unfaithful to his wife, or beats her, he is asking for divorce.

Not to mention a substantial dent in his savings account.

If the man treats his wife with respect and kindness, he is asking for her love. If he is genuine, he will receive it.

[quote="latifah"]If a man is unfaithful to his wife, or beats her, he is asking for divorce.

Not to mention a substantial dent in his savings account.

If the man treats his wife with respect and kindness, he is asking for her love. If he is genuine, he will receive it.[/quote]

Wow-good one LatifaH

[quote="latifah"]If the man treats his wife with respect and kindness, he is asking for her love. If he is genuine, he will receive it.[/quote]
Yes, and that works both ways.

[quote="muslim_kuri"]

[quote="MuslimSister"]Is he asking for it when he believes that a “woman’s place should be in the kitchen”? [/quote]

to an extent he might be right..i mean if the wife is always out and about..shopping and stuff then the husband should tell her that you should be at home to cook/work and stuff...[/quote]

that was very disappointing kuri

even if she IS out and about all the time husband should no think that "her place is in the kitchen"

Shafi school of thought (i think) says that its husbands job to hire a main cos housework aint the job of the woman

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"][quote="muslim_kuri"]

[quote="MuslimSister"]Is he asking for it when he believes that a “woman’s place should be in the kitchen”? [/quote]

to an extent he might be right..i mean if the wife is always out and about..shopping and stuff then the husband should tell her that you should be at home to cook/work and stuff...[/quote]

that was very disappointing kuri

even if she IS out and about all the time husband should no think that "her place is in the kitchen"

Shafi school of thought (i think) says that its husbands job to hire a main cos housework aint the job of the woman[/quote]

actually i think all schools of thought do not see cooking/cleaning as a woman's responsibility, and anything she does do is to her own credit and men should appreciate it. as you sed, she has the right to ask him for a maid to do this typa thing. the woman's responsibility is to nurture her kids with the correct tarbiyyah, so i feel the husband has a right to ask his wife to stop working/going out excessively once she has a kid.

housework and rasing kids are two diff issues

it is a MUST that a woman raises her kids

this is not the case with housework

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"][quote="muslim_kuri"]

[quote="MuslimSister"]Is he asking for it when he believes that a “woman’s place should be in the kitchen”? [/quote]

to an extent he might be right..i mean if the wife is always out and about..shopping and stuff then the husband should tell her that you should be at home to cook/work and stuff...[/quote]

that was very disappointing kuri

even if she IS out and about all the time husband should no think that "her place is in the kitchen"

Shafi school of thought (i think) says that its husbands job to hire a main cos housework aint the job of the woman[/quote]

yes your right...wasn't thinking...had a momentary lapse, sorry :oops:

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]housework and rasing kids are two diff issues

it is a MUST that a woman raises her kids

this is not the case with housework[/quote]

Alright... i agree with you... not saying i dont.

But dont you think circumstances play a part as well?

Example: Lets say the guy dont make that much that he can hire some help (i.e. a maid) but none the less he's out trying to earn a decent living.

Girls at home all day...

I think you know where im going with this...

[quote="Seraph"]

Alright... i agree with you... not saying i dont.

But dont you think circumstances play a part as well?

Example: Lets say the guy dont make that much that he can hire some help (i.e. a maid) but none the less he's out trying to earn a decent living.

Girls at home all day...

I think you know where im going with this...[/quote]

I think a woman in the above situation should think, if she has kids then she should do her best to raise them if not she should work and help out if the couple is tight and that way they can get a maid..but i think the best thing should be the man helpin out the wife with house work, a lil housewok wont kill him, after all u men claim to be practically "invincible" so a lil housework b4 goin off to work or comin bak from wrk after you have relaxed wont kill you..

Note: the "you" is used in general and not for anyone in particular..

[quote="Seraph"][quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]housework and rasing kids are two diff issues

it is a MUST that a woman raises her kids

this is not the case with housework[/quote]

Alright... i agree with you... not saying i dont.

But dont you think circumstances play a part as well?

Example: Lets say the guy dont make that much that he can hire some help (i.e. a maid) but none the less he's out trying to earn a decent living.

Girls at home all day...

I think you know where im going with this...[/quote]
as i sed, wotever the girl does is to her own credit, and therefore, something her hubby should appreciate. as angel said, it would help if the guy supported her by doing a lil' housework himself.
but as we all know from experience, its not very likely the girls gonna ask for a maid anyways... most of us are kind enough to do this sorta work, some actually enjoy cooking so u never know... but i feel that if your wife is not willing to do a little housework, it means ur just not showing her enough love and respect - otherwise she would b willing to do anything for u.

(not pointed at anyone in particular)

[quote="Seraph"]
Alright... i agree with you... not saying i dont.

But dont you think circumstances play a part as well?

Example: Lets say the guy dont make that much that he can hire some help (i.e. a maid) but none the less he's out trying to earn a decent living.

Girls at home all day...

I think you know where im going with this...[/quote]

like the girls said its up to her-

whether she decides to do it out of the goodness of her heart

and like LatifaH said if the guy treats his wife with kindness, he will receive her love.

and then maybe she'll wash his smelly socks for him

but note she she is under NO such obligation

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"][quote="Seraph"]
Alright... i agree with you... not saying i dont.

But dont you think circumstances play a part as well?

Example: Lets say the guy dont make that much that he can hire some help (i.e. a maid) but none the less he's out trying to earn a decent living.

Girls at home all day...

I think you know where im going with this...[/quote]

like the girls said its up to her-

whether she decides to do it out of the goodness of her heart

and like LatifaH said if the guy treats his wife with kindness, he will receive her love.

and then maybe she'll wash his smelly socks for him

but note she she is under NO such obligation[/quote]

Im not saying that she is obligated by any means.

Im just saying she should do her bit.

How does it look if the guy works all the time and comes home and she aint done diddly. Dont get me wrong im all for 'you gotta give a little love to recieve a little love' but that dont mean she should take advantage of his good nature and assume he wont mind if she doesnt pull her own weight (and no thats not a fat joke).

[quote="Seraph"]

Im just saying she should do her bit.

.[/quote]

and I'm just saying that she WILL providing her husband is nice to her

girls will do all the work HAPPILY providing he loves her and is good to her