is instant messaging a guy or girl you know harram????

islam4eva —

it's allways occured to me that technically you are talking to the guy or girl and thats harram :evil: but your not face 2 face???
lets see what you have to say
:oops: suprise me

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Amal — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 - 11:25

[quote=muslimah1234]hmmm...its a tricky 1 but...i used 2 chat 2 a guy on msn n nw we wanna get married soo...i dunno [/quote]

This comment probably answers your question Islam4eva..

Without wishing to sound like a misandronist, quite a number of guys (I use this term loosely) "chat" on msn etc. for reasons I neednt need explain :evil: In fact, my good friend warned me never to use msn for this reason :?

[quote=Ya'qub][quote=muslimah1234]no not really but to say to someone 'we met through msn' lol mkes me laugh but its true[/quote]

You might like this then:

http://www.maniacmuslim.com/Online_Nikkah.html

Its not hilarious, it's HIGH-larious.[/quote]

I take my hat off to maniac muslim, honestly, his articles never fail to make me laugh! 8) Maybe the Revival should consider writing articles along the same lines?? :-pp

Heres another article along the same lines:

http://maniacmuslim.com/2005/05/25/muslim-chat-do-nots/

Ya'qub — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 - 17:15

[quote=1R4M]everytime I come on here SOMEONE has started a ____is haram??? thread

jeez

relax!
its bloody annoying now[/quote]

I agree.

Islam is NOT just a list of dos and don'ts.

Its a personal relationship with our Creator.

Naz — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 - 20:32

No offence but guys that chat on MSN are not the type to commit they only want to have some fun before their parents take them back home and get them married.

Theres a Muslim girl at work who has been going out with a guy for 4 years. He has been stringing her along all these years saying he wanted to marry her. When she asked him to ask his parents and turned around and laughed at her. He told her that it wasnt in their family tradition to bring home girls (basically they have all had arranged marriages and thats the way it gonna stay).

Guesss where she met this guy. Wimmy road!!! Some women really are deluded.

Seraphim — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 - 11:12

[quote=BM :)]Such shame .......... 🙁 to hear that such guys exist[/quote]

Are you telling me you didnt already know?

My msn always stays on 'appear offline'... i only really use it to monitor my mail. I rarely use it for chatting.

Courage — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 - 14:23

[quote=Naz]No offence but guys that chat on MSN are not the type to commit they only want to have some fun before their parents take them back home and get them married.

Theres a Muslim girl at work who has been going out with a guy for 4 years. He has been stringing her along all these years saying he wanted to marry her. When she asked him to ask his parents and turned around and laughed at her. He told her that it wasnt in their family tradition to bring home girls (basically they have all had arranged marriages and thats the way it gonna stay).

Guesss where she met this guy. Wimmy road!!! Some women really are deluded.
[/quote]

If I was her I would wave bye-bye to him!

Seraphim — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 - 20:26

[quote=Pretty_Muslim01]yeah so sad, but yet so true!
i know this muslim girl who is only in year 7 and she has had 6 boyfriends, she even told me 2 my face that i concentrate too ,much on my religion, is it a good or bad thing to be pious?
some people think so, but others dont!
[/quote]

A year 7 whose had 6 boyfriends?

Either she's lying to big herself up... or shes really that easy. And therefore not someone you should be taking that kinda advice from.

Being pious is not a crime... infact its a virtue. People who arent as religious will see you as a constant reminder of what they're not. And as a result will try to put you down.

My advice, dont listen.

Sumaiya — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 - 20:50

[quote=Seraphim][quote=Pretty_Muslim01]yeah so sad, but yet so true!
i know this muslim girl who is only in year 7 and she has had 6 boyfriends, she even told me 2 my face that i concentrate too ,much on my religion, is it a good or bad thing to be pious?
some people think so, but others dont!
[/quote]

A year 7 whose had 6 boyfriends?

Either she's lying to big herself up... or shes really that easy. And therefore not someone you should be taking that kinda advice from.

Being pious is not a crime... infact its a virtue. People who arent as religious will see you as a constant reminder of what they're not. And as a result will try to put you down.

My advice, dont listen.[/quote]

good advice

Funzo — Sun, 3 Aug 2008 - 00:12

[quote=islam4eva]it's allways occured to me that technically you are talking to the guy or girl and thats harram :evil: but your not face 2 face???
lets see what you have to say
:oops: suprise me[/quote]
Well simply put like this if your speaking to someone from the opposite gender for e.g. a guy speaking to a girl he should speak to her as if he is speak to his mother, meaning with the same respect this was theres not flirting, joking about which leads to haraam thoughts and even haraam actions. Since your at the age where all the boys and girls around you would be into mixing and talking online messing about in class you need to remember to refrain from that find a group of friends who dont engage in that or if you cant find that then stay away from them completely but you'll realise after that they where silly and immature and remember what is right isnt always popular and what is popular isnt always right.