i think one of the wrongest reasons to get married is to run away from your family. leaving your family and starting a new one on this foundation sounds like a recipe for disaster. especially with the importance of marriage and family in Islam.

One of the ways to find a husband is through your parents; and if you're not having the best relationship with them how are you going to do that?

then there's choosing the dude. I wont say your parents/friends know you the best. its easy to control friends and family and let them see what you want to let them see and to create a mask. but if you're doing that already then getting married might not be the best thing to do right now. As i was saying, family and friend might not know you the best but they still have to interact with you and see you regularly so they can give you useful tips and opinions on what type of person you are and what type of person would suit you.

you might be real tights with your friends, but if you're not married then they probably arent either so in terms of experience in marriage, you're in the same (maybe sinking) boat. whereas your parents...well..they're together arent they? and you're right here and old enough to get married arent you? so they've got to know something or other on how to make it work right? if you're not talking to your parents or havent got a nice relationship with them, how are you going to discuss if this guy is suitable? if its going to work? when just the thought of talking about it is unbearable?

so don't look to marriage as an escape to your family. and don't blame your family if you cant find someone to marry. Family isnt an entity that sits there in the middle of the house, which can be blamed anytime for everything. Divide one by the number of people in your house, then times by a hundred. thats the percentage involvement and responsability you have in this family. thats the percentage blame you've got for this family not working out properly. If you want to get married then its time to change this percentage into the percentage success you have in this awesome, argument free family. and if you're THAT good, then i'm guessing you're reading to put those skills to build your own family.

PS: and anyway, your dad needs to sit there while you're talking with your maybe-future-husband, so if you're not tight with your dad then why are you even thinking about marriage?

Lillyproscastinating.

There's plenty of other things to mention related to this particular reason; now, this is a blog, not really an article, what do you think should go on our list of "the wrongest reasons to marry"? (and not you dont have to write an essay the way i did)